What is the name of your state? California has jurisdiction that is where I am. My ex is in the military in Louisiana. We have joint legal and physical custody. However my son lives with dad while in school and I see him on his vacations. Found out day before I sent my son back stepmom says:OH! didnt u know he is in california for school for one month. ??? I sent him back because he had school and it was a saturday. No lawyers available and court order says he goes back that day. Later find out that ex will be in school later this year for 2 months for training in Pennsylvania and so on and so on. I called several lawyers on this. No one agrees!! HELP!! Some say "ridiculous already planning 3 months out of the year to be away?!" Others say"short period of time judge will not grant change of custody" You know how much retainer fees are. Any advice for a good mom who lost son in first place because had bad lawyer who no longer can practice law in CA??