What is the name of your state? Michigan
My ex-wife and I were divorced in Oct 2001. In our divorce settlement it was stated that no child support was necessary at that time, but I was to pay 50% of the daycare costs. We share joint legal custody. It was also stated that she could file for child support at anytime, but it would be effective the day she filed, and not get back support.
I was paying my 50% in daycare costs up until June 2003. That is when my ex-wife decided to enroll my 4 year old son in very expensive summer camps. Averaging about $1600/month. My wife makes double what I make and could afford to send him to these camps. I expressed my concern that I could not afford this, but she went ahead and enrolled him anyway and told me to pay her what I could.
Then in September of 2003 she enrolled him in a private school for pre-school. The TUITION per 9 month year is $8300. With before and after school care it is $9600. I again told her I could not afford $500 a month for tuition/daycare AND give her money for child support. But again she enrolled him.
I paid her as much as I could possibly afford each month. Because I was not able to give her the amount she requested we are now going to Friend of the Court to settle it. She is claiming that the $9600 a year she pays is DAYCARE not tuition plus daycare. And also claiming a $4000 arrear because I did not pay for 1/2 of his summer camps and 1/2 of his private school tuition.
The way I see it is that I am responsible for child support + day care expenses. Which his day care comes to about $170 a month. I am willing to pay 1/2 of that plus whatever the court orders me to pay in actual child support.
My biggest question is...Can I be required to pay his tuition costs AND before & after school daycare costs when there is a suitable public school in the area?
I want to give my child as much as I can. But if I am required to pay $500/month for child care and then child support on top of that I will not be able to maintain a home to take care of my child in.