What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? New Jersey
Ok I am the new father, I married my wife when her daughter was only a few months old and we have raised her as my own with full knowledge that when she is old enough we will explain the situation to her.
Her ex was a drunk/abusive drug addict who spent more time locked up then on the outside.. He has not seen my daughter in almost 8 years now (she is 9) and has paid about $1000 in child support (over 25k outstanding currently). He has been picked up on bench warrents about the child support at least 15 times but keeps walking sometimes without paying anything towards it which I feel is disgusting..
I have been lucky enough to cover my daughter under my health and benefits insurances and have paid every penny for her since she was a baby.
Today we get a certified Priority Mail that he is now coming after us to reduce his child support rate (which he doesn't pay) and request Visitation since we do not allow him to see her apparently (not like he has ever made an attempt either)
One issue I noticed right away is the date on the letter for court states court is Sept 20th 2009, which is a Sunday!! -- you can clearly notice it has been whited out and that it said 21st on it.. So I would like to nail him for that, not sure what it is called but changing official documents or something?
Secondly, my daughter was just diagnosed with Autism, she is having alot of trouble in school with her social skills and change is really tough on her.
Does this SOB have any chance, we have two great lawyers and he is representing himself.. Unfortunately our meeting with the lawyers is not until next week and I am so upset right now I have been searching all night for some type of information to what could / may happen in a case like this.
I am her legal guardian granted through the courts and backed by my wife and her parents, but I am not her adopted father as of yet, although I call her my daughter and she knows noone else but me as Daddy.
Please let me know, what in your experience may happen and what I need to prepare myself for.
Few Things I would like to Add
1) He has no job no employment has no way of providing any income support and states on his paperwork exactly as follows--
"Lives with Family they are Supporting Me and Paying My Bills Currently"
2) No car or transportation, lost license due to many DWI for many years, has no way of getting her around or to or from any visitations
The last thing this is more of a question, is there a way to search online to see if this document we received is actually legit, like a Court Record Search or something like that? ( I see all them pay scams ones but i mean through NJ can I check online and see if this has actually been presented to the courts )