AnotherLostDad
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Colorado
My wife moved out memorial day weekend of 2008 leaving me with our then 18mo son. I agreed that she could see him when ever she wanted to hoping she'd still be a part of his life.
That year she came to see him 3 times, and picked him up to stay overnight with her 3 times. I later found out from her family that her over nights consisted of her dropping him off at her sister's house and ignoring him to be on the internet the entire weekend. She eventually started canceling or just not showing up when she said she would to see him.
The last time she saw him was Christmas of 08 right after he turned 2. She came by my mom's house when we were there, said hi to him from the doorway, dropped off some presents for him and then said she had to go.
I haven't heard from her since just before the 4th of July in 2009 when she canceled on her request to pick him up. She missed his 3rd birthday, and hasn't responded to any of my phone calls or emails since. At my last knowledge she was living with her mother, but since she's stopped contact I'm unsure of even that now.
I haven't filed for divorce because she had threatened to sue for full custody. Given her lack of care for him when we were together I don't think it's in his best interest to live with her full time, or honestly be with her overnight with out supervision.
My opinions on this are mostly due to things that might just amount to a difference of opinion on parenting but somethings that weren't outright neglect (I think) but can't be proven anyway. Like putting a baby gate in his bedroom door and leaving him in there all day just giving him bottles and changing him when he'd cry long enough to bother her. When I came home early one day and found him in his room hungry with a messy diaper she admitted to me she did this. At that point I started having my sister or my mom watch him, or just hang out at the house with both of them while I was at work.
Unfortunately they weren't available for all of my shifts. There were 2 different incidents while I was at work when he somehow got out of our apartment while in her care and was picked up by the neighbors until the police and cps could be called. I never knew about this until the second time when the social worker came back when I was there to talk to me and make sure I was really in the picture. It was almost 2 months after this that she left.
If I were to file for divorce at this point, is it possible she could get full custody? I'm hoping she can get her self together and be a productive part of his life, but I can't imagine leaving him alone with her for to long after everything, plus the fact she hasn't seen him in over a year.
My wife moved out memorial day weekend of 2008 leaving me with our then 18mo son. I agreed that she could see him when ever she wanted to hoping she'd still be a part of his life.
That year she came to see him 3 times, and picked him up to stay overnight with her 3 times. I later found out from her family that her over nights consisted of her dropping him off at her sister's house and ignoring him to be on the internet the entire weekend. She eventually started canceling or just not showing up when she said she would to see him.
The last time she saw him was Christmas of 08 right after he turned 2. She came by my mom's house when we were there, said hi to him from the doorway, dropped off some presents for him and then said she had to go.
I haven't heard from her since just before the 4th of July in 2009 when she canceled on her request to pick him up. She missed his 3rd birthday, and hasn't responded to any of my phone calls or emails since. At my last knowledge she was living with her mother, but since she's stopped contact I'm unsure of even that now.
I haven't filed for divorce because she had threatened to sue for full custody. Given her lack of care for him when we were together I don't think it's in his best interest to live with her full time, or honestly be with her overnight with out supervision.
My opinions on this are mostly due to things that might just amount to a difference of opinion on parenting but somethings that weren't outright neglect (I think) but can't be proven anyway. Like putting a baby gate in his bedroom door and leaving him in there all day just giving him bottles and changing him when he'd cry long enough to bother her. When I came home early one day and found him in his room hungry with a messy diaper she admitted to me she did this. At that point I started having my sister or my mom watch him, or just hang out at the house with both of them while I was at work.
Unfortunately they weren't available for all of my shifts. There were 2 different incidents while I was at work when he somehow got out of our apartment while in her care and was picked up by the neighbors until the police and cps could be called. I never knew about this until the second time when the social worker came back when I was there to talk to me and make sure I was really in the picture. It was almost 2 months after this that she left.
If I were to file for divorce at this point, is it possible she could get full custody? I'm hoping she can get her self together and be a productive part of his life, but I can't imagine leaving him alone with her for to long after everything, plus the fact she hasn't seen him in over a year.