Denying paternal rights

[TheGeekess]

Originally Posted by kt09

Biologically. My mother's biological grandparents took her from her biological mother and father when she and my uncle were 4 and 5. She's not bitter about not being raised with her birth parents. She's thankful that she was raised by good, Godly people rather than who she would've ended up with if they hadn't done anything. My grandparents were not being selfish by taking them from their birth parents. They did it because they believed it would be best for them. That's the way I view this, and I believe my son would see it the same way.

Yeah, right. I raised The Child by myself for 11 years. Do you know how hard it is to hear your child ask where her father is when she sees/hears the other children around get picked up/talk about their fathers? Do you know how hard it is to watch your child's maternal uncles wrestle with their children on the floor and see your child kind of standing to the side (though to give my sibs credit, they did include her)? My parents dote on The Child and spoil her silly, but it's not the same. Now that she has met her father (no matter what a lying yard dog he is) she is still proud that she has a Daddy like the other children. So, I have to deal with a toxic personality once a month but she has a Daddy like everyone else.

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by Hisbabygirl77

To bad the LAW doesnt see it your way. Keep it up girl and you wont have custody of your child at all when the judge sees you trying to keep daddy out of his/her life.

Wednesday Hijack question:

Which somewhat obscure movie included in its cast Brad Pitt AND Nick Cave?

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by TheGeekess

Yeah, right. I raised The Child by myself for 11 years. Do you know how hard it is to hear your child ask where her father is when she sees/hears the other children around get picked up/talk about their fathers? Do you know how hard it is to watch your child's maternal uncles wrestle with their children on the floor and see your child kind of standing to the side (though to give my sibs credit, they did include her)? My parents dote on The Child and spoil her silly, but it's not the same. Now that she has met her father (no matter what a lying yard dog he is) she is still proud that she has a Daddy like the other children. So, I have to deal with a toxic personality once a month but she has a Daddy like everyone else.

There about a million people who would so greatly benefit from your post, Geekess.

[Hisbabygirl77]

Originally Posted by Dogmatique

Wednesday Hijack question:

Which somewhat obscure movie included in its cast Brad Pitt AND Nick Cave?

Oh OH I know I know Johnny Suede!!!!!

[kt09]

Originally Posted by TheGeekess

Yeah, right. I raised The Child by myself for 11 years. Do you know how hard it is to hear your child ask where her father is when she sees/hears the other children around get picked up/talk about their fathers? Do you know how hard it is to watch your child's maternal uncles wrestle with their children on the floor and see your child kind of standing to the side (though to give my sibs credit, they did include her)? My parents dote on The Child and spoil her silly, but it's not the same. Now that she has met her father (no matter what a lying yard dog he is) she is still proud that she has a Daddy like the other children. So, I have to deal with a toxic personality once a month but she has a Daddy like everyone else.

You don't think I've thought about how hard it will be? I've spent many nights crying because I wish that my baby's father was someone we could make a life with. I know it will be extremely hard on both of us, but I also believe that with God we can overcome anything. I know I have the strength to deal with this, and I know in my heart that one day my son will understand and appreciate what I'm doing.

[Hisbabygirl77]

Originally Posted by kt09

You don't think I've thought about how hard it will be? I've spent many nights crying because I wish that my baby's father was someone we could make a life with. I know it will be extremely hard on both of us, but I also believe that with God we can overcome anything. I know I have the strength to deal with this, and I know in my heart that one day my son will understand and appreciate what I'm doing.

No your child wont appreciate it. Dont bring God into this equation please if you are going to do that then realize that God allowed you to become pregnant with this mans child so maybe God knew this man was suppose to be his father and here you are trying to deny the child the father that God chose.

[kt09]

Originally Posted by Hisbabygirl77

No your child wont appreciate it. Dont bring God into this equation please if you are going to do that then realize that God allowed you to become pregnant with this mans child so maybe God knew this man was suppose to be his father and here you are trying to deny the child the father that God chose.

If you're offended by my mentioning a faith in God, then you could not possibly understand why I know in my heart I'm doing the right thing. And who are you to say that my child will not appreciate it. Yes, it will be hard on him, but I believe when he's older he will understand. I also believe that the right man for us is still out there, someone who can be a father to my child. I would much rather go a few years with the lack of a father than have my son spend his whole life with his biological father.

[TheGeekess]

Originally Posted by kt09

You don't think I've thought about how hard it will be? I've spent many nights crying because I wish that my baby's father was someone we could make a life with. I know it will be extremely hard on both of us, but I also believe that with God we can overcome anything. I know I have the strength to deal with this, and I know in my heart that one day my son will understand and appreciate what I'm doing.

Sure.... that's what I thought, too. You'll see. No matter what kind of father a child has, that is still their father. And if we choose unwisely, well, actions have consequences.

And when you have to put your child in therapy to deal with the inevitable issues that will arise, you will remember my words.

I detest The Child's father. When I'm around him, my blood pressure goes up about 15 points and the tachycardia kicks in. But I have to deal because he is The Child's father and I chose him to be so when I slept with him that once when I was ovulating and decided against abortion. This man held a gun to my head, threw a lawnmower on the bed when I was on it and stalked me.... But I still deal. As you must learn to deal. Get used to the idea.

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by Hisbabygirl77

Oh OH I know I know Johnny Suede!!!!!

Bloody hell...you win not only tonight's prize (which is something Ana is keeping secret somewhere) but also the Blixa Bloomin' Quick award.

Be thankful

[kt09]

Originally Posted by TheGeekess

Sure.... that's what I thought, too. You'll see. No matter what kind of father a child has, that is still their father. And if we choose unwisely, well, actions have consequences.

And when you have to put your child in therapy to deal with the inevitable issues that will arise, you will remember my words.

I detest The Child's father. When I'm around him, my blood pressure goes up about 15 points and the tachycardia kicks in. But I have to deal because he is The Child's father and I chose him to be so when I slept with him that once when I was ovulating and decided against abortion. This man held a gun to my head, threw a lawnmower on the bed when I was on it and stalked me.... But I still deal. As you must learn to deal. Get used to the idea.

I am truly sorry that you are having to deal with this.

I understand what you're saying, but I'm just doing (or rather trying to do) what I feel in my heart is for the best.

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by kt09

If you're offended by my mentioning a faith in God, then you could not possibly understand why I know in my heart I'm doing the right thing. And who are you to say that my child will not appreciate it. Yes, it will be hard on him, but I believe when he's older he will understand. I also believe that the right man for us is still out there, someone who can be a father to my child. I would much rather go a few years with the lack of a father than have my son spend his whole life with his biological father.

Please consult with a local attorney.

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by TheGeekess

Sure.... that's what I thought, too. You'll see. No matter what kind of father a child has, that is still their father. And if we choose unwisely, well, actions have consequences.

And when you have to put your child in therapy to deal with the inevitable issues that will arise, you will remember my words.

I detest The Child's father. When I'm around him, my blood pressure goes up about 15 points and the tachycardia kicks in. But I have to deal because he is The Child's father and I chose him to be so when I slept with him that once when I was ovulating and decided against abortion. This man held a gun to my head, threw a lawnmower on the bed when I was on it and stalked me.... But I still deal. As you must learn to deal. Get used to the idea.

Please, don't ever leave these boards. We need you!

[TheGeekess]

Originally Posted by kt09

I am truly sorry that you are having to deal with this.

I understand what you're saying, but I'm just doing (or rather trying to do) what I feel in my heart is for the best.

Wait until Baby is born.

[lily2467]

Originally Posted by kt09

I also believe that the right man for us is still out there, someone who can be a father to my child.

if THAT were the case you would have waited until you met THAT man to have sex. but the reality is you didn't. not trying to be nasty, but you made your bed and now you have to lie in it. i think you are getting all hyped up about this too soon. you never know, having a child might be the kick in the butt he needs to get it together. either way, he has a right to be a crapy parent. . . .thats a right YOU gave him by having sex with him.

[TheGeekess]

Originally Posted by Dogmatique

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