ultravioletmama
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? Oregon
Ex and I have joint legal custody, he has physical custody. We have had some major communication issues about the children over the last 5 years, ex likes to communicate issues to our oldest child rather then with me. The biggie is I just found out the ex had used class II illegal drugs and was terminated from a job for not passing a UA with this substance in his system 2-1/2 years ago. Because this is a highly addictive substance, I fear that the ex is still using due to the volatile nature he displays to our children. He has never been physically abusive, but the way he yells at my children has been documented by a relative in the medical profession. Also the children have witnessed their grandmother (who resides with them) be abusive to another little boy that she used to provide child care to, this was documented by the child welfare agency.
My question is, because this drug use was documented over 2 years ago, is this too long ago to bring up now, especially since I suspect he may still be using? I have heard that a transfer of physical custody can happen with joint legal custody when circumstances change. Any input or advice is extremely appreciated, I am very worried about the environment my children live in.
Thank you.
Ex and I have joint legal custody, he has physical custody. We have had some major communication issues about the children over the last 5 years, ex likes to communicate issues to our oldest child rather then with me. The biggie is I just found out the ex had used class II illegal drugs and was terminated from a job for not passing a UA with this substance in his system 2-1/2 years ago. Because this is a highly addictive substance, I fear that the ex is still using due to the volatile nature he displays to our children. He has never been physically abusive, but the way he yells at my children has been documented by a relative in the medical profession. Also the children have witnessed their grandmother (who resides with them) be abusive to another little boy that she used to provide child care to, this was documented by the child welfare agency.
My question is, because this drug use was documented over 2 years ago, is this too long ago to bring up now, especially since I suspect he may still be using? I have heard that a transfer of physical custody can happen with joint legal custody when circumstances change. Any input or advice is extremely appreciated, I am very worried about the environment my children live in.
Thank you.