I would ask for the blankets. Others may foo foo it, but we are talking about young children here. I also was in fear of court dates when our daughter was young (thank God I think dad ran out of money!!!) as the reality of the situation was her life would change every 4 to 5 months based on the current court appt mediators mood...this went on for years and it WAS detrimental to our daughters well being.
Stick with the default deal, make it clear, and do not hesitate to show up if ex shows a pattern of not respecting it.
Come on parents....if a child has a special blanket, and they are living back and forth between two homes...don't you think a blanket is important? I am being serious. I wonder if there is a bit of jadedness in this legal realm towards kids sometimes. And, my experience is, unfortunately, not all attorneys look out for the best interests of the child, but to make sure they follow the local protocol and 'look good' in terms of choosing or forcing cases to bend to their ability to keep their reputation. Honestly, there are many attorneys out there not invested in the best interests of the child....
but then again, what is the best interests of the child is so often contested that it becomes impossible.
I think we need to treat children, especially the young one's with a extra degree of compassion and their needs (blankets, breast milk, what have you) if we want to raise healthy children. I suspect, without knowing for sure, that none of us here on this site has had to grow up from early childhood in two separate households. I still try to imagine what it would be like.