What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?KY
I have a son with a man who I used to date off and on, he's 8. I'm 25 years old and his father is 28 years old. His father when my son was 2 got into an argument with me because he thought I was seeing another man and during sex he cut me with a knife. He made me think he wanted to "make love" to me to get me in a vulnerable state and then took advantage of it and cut me.. It was a 2 cm cut on the inside of my leg. I went to the doctor for stitches and they asked me what happened, I told them and he was charged with rape and battery. He ended up getting an assault charge which ended up being a felony and the rape was dropped.
Since 2005 until last year he was in our son's life because he was in prison. When my son was born he took a paternity test and he's the father. I'm not going to say I'm perfect, I have battled drug addiction for the past ten years and I'm only 25. But I've cleaned up and been to rehab, have a job, another baby and I live with my parents in a home with 4 bedrooms. My son also has my last name.
My son's father didn't pay me any child support while in prison and he got out about a year and a half ago. He owes me about 8 grand in child support and has had a job the past year yet he didn't pay me anything. My caseworker is on it. He has visitation rights but no custody. He says he's changed but I don't believe it. He does take his son from time to time when he comes up to see him. He got off of parole last month and now I've been served with papers saying he wants to get full custody and take my rights away!
His situation is this: He lives with his grandma in Texas and on top of owing me child support has no car of his own. He has a job making three times what I make, but he doesn't spend the money wisely. Because of our son we are facebook friends and pretty much every photo is him drinking or drunk. I know he's also had three girlfriends in the past year and tried to move in with all three of them but then they dumped him for being possessive. He failed a drug test during his parole but never went back to prison. He also got into two fights that I know of while on parole which both resulted in the other person needing stitches and for whatever reason charges were never pressed even though one of them the police had to come and put him in handcuffs to figure out what happened. Also, when he's had chances to come and see his son, he chooses not to a lot of time and gets drunk instead. Even though is parole officer told him in front of me that he could come see his son pretty much anytime all he had to do was ask. I've also begged him to call him more often and he never calls him. I don't understand why he wants custody but to hurt me or stop the child support. If he's 8 grand in debt, when would someone go to jail for non support?
I'm just wondering if the court would ever give anyone like him custody of a child? I want him to be in our child's life, but he's dangerous. He hurt me, and I can get over that if he's changed because our son should have a relationship with his dad no matter what he did to me. I'm not interested in him romantically, I just want my child to be happy. But I don't think he has his ducks in a row and I can't afford a lawyer. But I have a job, am not on drugs, I have a drug abuse counselor that I've been seeing weekly and now monthly for the past year who can vouch that I'm so far an ex drug addict and I don't plan on going back. But my drug abuse history and the fact I live with my parents scares me. But my son has two grandparents, a mother, a sister and two aunts who are with him all the time and he has lots of loving people around him. Where as if he was with his father, even with all the other stuff he has going on, he'd have noone but his father and his grandmother. I'm just scared.