FrustratedMom16
Junior Member
Live in Kentucky
Currently my ex is violating 5 parts of our settlement. Past owed child support, owed payments for daughter's therapy, smoking around kids, telling me where he's living, expired tags on car (he tends to lose his license)
We have a 40/50 timeshare arrangement. My ex lived with his mother 1.5 years, got an apartment and about 10 months later lost it and moved in with his brother and lied about doing so. He even lied and confused our 6 year old about it. His brother kicked him out and he had to take kids to a hotel during Xmas break. I've had the kids for the last 2 weeks straight since he can't get an apartment probably due to his ruined credit. His phone was turned off for non payment and once he gets in trouble over illegally driving his car, he'll lose the pizza delivery job he took just before we finalized the divorce to try and lower his child support payments. He also racked up thousands in credit card debt during our divorce (which took 1.5 years). He wants the kids but I requested no overnights as I do not think living in a hotel during a school week (he gets them Tuesday night to Friday morning) is acceptable. It would also be the 3rd place they lived with him in 3 months. I want to know if such instability is grounds to have the timeshare arrangement changed. I know it's impacting my son but I doubt I could get a professional to write anything. He has been seeing a counselor but not nearly long enough. Does ruined credit, massive debt, inability to pay normal bills, driving illegally, moving around and living in a hotel and repeated settlement violations count towards being too unstable to have the children so often?
Also, whenever I take him to court for anything (I have a DVO and he tried to force his way into my car to get to my boyfriend of 2 years) his lawyer throws out every single false claim she can think of. They like to accuse me of child abuse or claim my boyfriend spanks the kids (he doesn't, kids say he doesn't). I've even been reported to CPS but nothing came of it since nothing is happening. However, it seems like the court just buys whatever even though it's clearly a retaliation tactic. He's never pursued anything from it probably because it would be too expensive to only have it disproven. It does keep me from taking him to court though just in case one day the judge decides he could never ever lie despite all the documented cases of him doing so.
How to I combat the false claims (I've gotten affidavits from some ppl already) and should I halt the overnight visits and can I even do that?
Currently my ex is violating 5 parts of our settlement. Past owed child support, owed payments for daughter's therapy, smoking around kids, telling me where he's living, expired tags on car (he tends to lose his license)
We have a 40/50 timeshare arrangement. My ex lived with his mother 1.5 years, got an apartment and about 10 months later lost it and moved in with his brother and lied about doing so. He even lied and confused our 6 year old about it. His brother kicked him out and he had to take kids to a hotel during Xmas break. I've had the kids for the last 2 weeks straight since he can't get an apartment probably due to his ruined credit. His phone was turned off for non payment and once he gets in trouble over illegally driving his car, he'll lose the pizza delivery job he took just before we finalized the divorce to try and lower his child support payments. He also racked up thousands in credit card debt during our divorce (which took 1.5 years). He wants the kids but I requested no overnights as I do not think living in a hotel during a school week (he gets them Tuesday night to Friday morning) is acceptable. It would also be the 3rd place they lived with him in 3 months. I want to know if such instability is grounds to have the timeshare arrangement changed. I know it's impacting my son but I doubt I could get a professional to write anything. He has been seeing a counselor but not nearly long enough. Does ruined credit, massive debt, inability to pay normal bills, driving illegally, moving around and living in a hotel and repeated settlement violations count towards being too unstable to have the children so often?
Also, whenever I take him to court for anything (I have a DVO and he tried to force his way into my car to get to my boyfriend of 2 years) his lawyer throws out every single false claim she can think of. They like to accuse me of child abuse or claim my boyfriend spanks the kids (he doesn't, kids say he doesn't). I've even been reported to CPS but nothing came of it since nothing is happening. However, it seems like the court just buys whatever even though it's clearly a retaliation tactic. He's never pursued anything from it probably because it would be too expensive to only have it disproven. It does keep me from taking him to court though just in case one day the judge decides he could never ever lie despite all the documented cases of him doing so.
How to I combat the false claims (I've gotten affidavits from some ppl already) and should I halt the overnight visits and can I even do that?