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Linda Joyce
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I understand what you are going thru, I've been thru it in Ohio, I can possibly give some advice , feel free to email me.
Cheeka said:I don't know who you think you are coming onto a site like this and being so rude and inaccurate as well. As far as me being out of the picture, I just want to say that when my hubby goes to work, who takes care of THEIR child. I DO! Everything in his life affects mine and our family.
mikesonlyangel said:I thought that when you became a STEP MOTHER that you took on responibility of the mother when the child was in your home, hence the title, sorry but jmo. And why is it that people can be so nasty to other people in here, sorry but why not stick to the subject of the post. she asked a question, answer it and go on, what does it help to make nasty hurtful remarks anyhow????
kat1963 said:>>My husband is about to go off.
Apparently, that is his problem...he just can't stop sharing!!! Didn't anyone tell him he didn't need to populate the world himself? Let's see, 3 with one ex, 1 another, 1 with you. Five children, 3 different women..sheessh, no wonder he's bankrupt!
Listen, if she violated the court order by not allowing holiday visitation & moving without notice, then file a motion to show cause/contempt. Check the local court house website, most have the forms on line. If not, they are usually available at the court house, or copies at the local law library.
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KAT [/QUOTE That was a little harsh it doesn't matter how many kids he has and with who. That is not part of any legal advice.
shuga24 said:That was a little harsh it doesn't matter how many kids he has and with who.
That is not part of any legal advice.
*** Well neither is this!
Cheeka said:What is the name of your state? Ohio
We are having a problem with the ex just picking up and moving from town to town and not notifying us. We were supposed to have my stepdaughter for Christmas but her mother yanked her out of school for the second time and took off with her a week before Christmas.
*** "We"? This is not your place to involve yourself in a matter between the biological parents.
When you are a part of one of the biological parents, it IS WE...She is involved in his everyday life, to include his children and everything that involves them..
We found her last week and they are living in a motel. My stepdaughter spent Christmas in a motel with no tree when she could have been here with us in a home.
*** Wherever the custodial parent resides is of no concern to you so long as it is not in a cardboard box on the street, and even then, it is of concern to the child's non-custodial parent...not you.
It is every concern of "THEIRS"... This is something that obviously was discussed between the biological parent and her, which constitues "WE".. It sounds to me that "THEY" have alot of concern for his children and wanting them to have a normal childhood and living in Hotel after Hotel and not having a Christmas Tree, especially being 5 years old.....Shows no stability to me...After all we learn from our parents....What is that going to teach the child.?????.
She does not allow the scheduled visitation because she is jealous of me.
*** And for a minute, place yourself in HER shoes. Perhaps you annoy her because you overstep your bounds in matters concerning THEIR child.
Sound to me like the biological mother is selfish, as she is thinking of herself and not the child. They, which constitutes on her part "WE", have every right to want to see the child, and the child has every right to see her dad. When the judge orders visitation, and the orders are set, it isn't "overstepping" your bounds to want to have the order inforced. That is the reason they have visitation is because it is healthy for the children. The younger ones only know that their mother and father aren't together anymore, they are too young to understand why, that is why it is important for them to be able to see both.
It has been 3 years since they divorced and my husband has a right to see his daughter. She loves to be here with us. She is only 5. Her other ex-husband is fighting for custody of their 15 year old son. We tried to do this the nice way but it did not work. I have been trying to get an atty for a week now and no one wants to take the case, even though they say we have a great one.
*** Again, "we" don't have a case, the non-custodial father might. Perhaps you misinterpreted the attorneys' reluctance to represent YOU.
The attorney doesn't have to represent "her", as the attorney represents "them", as she would put it "WE". If the step parent, shouldn't have anything to do with the child support, child custody, etc. then why does the Attorney Generals Office send out letters to the Step Parent's to sign to be "involved"?
We have everything documented. My husband is about to go off. I don't know who else to turn too. Any suggestions would be appreciated. We are not wanting to take the child from her mother but we have no choice here. She deserves to have a home.*** Then your husband should 'go off' and speak to an attorney himself, and without your interference.
Wrong answer.... The Attorney's and Judge's want to see a stable family enviornment. When a couple joins in marriage, it constitues "we". They share everything in life from that point on, to include money matters, where they live, where they work, and THE KIDS, to include their own and STEP kids. If you are in a relationship where you have NO SAY on what your step kids do, or what goes on, then you are in the wrong relationship, and THAT is what causes divorces. When a step parent "CARES", that shows the children more than just sitting back and basically saying "you are not mine, get out of my face".
I don't care if the child is your step child or not, you have every right to treat them as your own when they are in your care... When they are not in your care, you still have every right to worry about them, and to try to make it better for them if they are in an unstable situation.
Now seeing that this is an advice column, I am going to give her my advice... Contact your Attorney General's Office or the state that the Divorce was given, and have them send your husband papers for you to sign, stating that you have every legal right in the case of the children. Your husband would have to agree to that, but I am sure by your original post, that he would be happy to do that....Seems to me that there needs to be more STEP PARENTS out there like you, and less out there like some of the advisors on this forum.
stealth2 said:All very nice and sweet, TexasNative. But legally completely moot. As a stepparent, the OP has no legal rights to do anything about this situation. Only her husband does.
That is true, for every situation EXCEPT this child. She is a legal stranger just as anyone walking down the street. She has no more rights than you or I would in this child's life. If you have any statute or law from the OP's state that says different, then please share it.....As to her not having any legal rights, that is true to a certain extent.
Wrong again. Unless her husband is a judge who has signed a custody document giving his wife certain rights and obligations under color of law, he can't "give" her anything regarding this child.She has all the legal rights her husband allows her to have while the children are in "THEIR" home
Again wrong. The attorney general is a lawyer for the state. Nothing more. S/He is the chief legal authority of the state and sometimes issues opinion briefs, representes the state in litigation and most times oversees the legal climate of the state.as well as all the legal rights that he "CAN" sign to her coming from the Attorney General's Office.
That is true, for every situation EXCEPT this child. She is a legal stranger just as anyone walking down the street. She has no more rights than you or I would in this child's life. If you have any statute or law from the OP's state that says different, then please share it.....As to her not having any legal rights, that is true to a certain extent.
Wrong again. Unless her husband is a judge who has signed a custody document giving his wife certain rights and obligations under color of law, he can't "give" her anything regarding this child.She has all the legal rights her husband allows her to have while the children are in "THEIR" home
Again wrong. The attorney general is a lawyer for the state. Nothing more. S/He is the chief legal authority of the state and sometimes issues opinion briefs, representes the state in litigation and most times oversees the legal climate of the state.as well as all the legal rights that he "CAN" sign to her coming from the Attorney General's Office.
Well then I'm sure you'll be more than happy to prove your outrageous statements. how about a case number or executive order signed by the Attorney General conferring rights to you regarding the step children?You need to study law a little better (if in fact you do at all). I know this for a fact, as I had to do this last year with my STEP KIDS........
Well then I'm sure you'll be more than happy to prove your outrageous statements. how about a case number or executive order signed by the Attorney General conferring rights to you regarding the step children?You need to study law a little better (if in fact you do at all). I know this for a fact, as I had to do this last year with my STEP KIDS........