Stay strong and beside your husband, I am in the same situation as yourself. You cant let people get to you if your family consist of your stepchildren then it includes you. Things are so backwards in this world, we( as in stepmothers) catch hell either way, we are told that the welfare of the child is not any of our business but in the same breath we are to care for these children , open our homes and hearts to them but when something comes up with them its none of our business. So if you want to stand by your man, then do so.