Guess I should have put in other factors, since father has been dating this woman, he has gottena DUI and drinking and nights out have become more frequent. This woman does not have custody of her own 2 children due to alcohol issues. I know this woman on a personal basis as her children used to attend the same school as mine. I have no issues with her othan than the alcohol. I guess my question is do I bring this up to my lawyer or just have my daughter "deal" with it. I don't feel comfotable sending her to her father's if she is going to feel uncomfortable. There is nothing wrong with that.
You need to answer what state you live in...because the Laws vary from state to state.
A DUI won't, in of itself, result in any restriction to your X's visitation (if the kids were in the car, then you'd be able to prevent him from legally driving with the children- but it still would not necessarily limit/end his visitation altogether).
I'm concerned that you think Dad is 'brainwashing' the child...simply because he wants his partner & his child to get along. I think EVERY parent wants their chidren to get along with their Significant Other(s).
Most important, there IS something wrong with that. It's called Contempt of Court. You are in Contempt of the Court Order at ANY time you do not provide the child for Dad's Court Ordered parenting/visitation time.
A 10 yr old is old enough to know she won't always like all her classmates or neighbors or teachers either...but that doesn't mean she doesn't have to learn to co-exist with them. This is a good opportunity for a life lesson *IMO*
