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Trinity23t
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What is the name of your state? Texas
Hello,
The last time I saw my son was Fathers day of 2001. The next visitation weekend, I went to pick up my son, only to find my ex's apartment empty. The neighbor told me they moved to Austin (4 hours away). In my divorce decree, it specifically states that she cannot leave the county without my permission. I have not paid child support since day one. We have been divorced since december 2000. Child support was calculated based on a contract job that was paying $40K/yr (which I was laid off from less than two weeks after the decree was finalized). Since then, I have been unable to hold a steady job, due to the job market here in Dallas. I am an IT professional... jobs are few and far between. Everyone that I have attempted to get help from tells me that everyone uses this excuse. They got fired, and can't work anymore... just to get out of child support. Unfortunately, it's not an excuse... it's my life. I left my ex because our marriage was dead, and I found someone that made me feel ALIVE again! I now have a family of three, and I'm just barely able to support my family. We get a little further behind every month. I'll get a contract for a couple of months (just enough to get caught up), and then get laid off for a couple of months. This has been going on for over a year. About 7 months ago, my ex sent me a registered letter informing me of her whereabouts, and that she moved because I have been unable to pay any child support since our divorce.
The score is 1 and 1... she can't do anything because she screwed up by leaving the area without notifying me or getting permission, and any movement on her part might spark a lawsuit on my part. I can't do anything because I haven't paid child support, and any movement on my part might spark a lawsuit on her part.
What can be done? I have been told that I cannot change the child support decree until all owed child support has been paid. Under my current circumstances, that is impossible... and it keeps racking up at that ungodly rate every month. Until that is taken care of, I cannot pursue getting the visitation modified. Until the visitation is modified, I cannot see my son.
I have had no contact with my ex since Fathers day weekend of 2001. I have had no contact with my son since Fathers day weekend 2001. I have to try not to think about him just to be able to make it through the day... and there's no light at the end of the tunnel. Does anyone have any good news?
Hello,
The last time I saw my son was Fathers day of 2001. The next visitation weekend, I went to pick up my son, only to find my ex's apartment empty. The neighbor told me they moved to Austin (4 hours away). In my divorce decree, it specifically states that she cannot leave the county without my permission. I have not paid child support since day one. We have been divorced since december 2000. Child support was calculated based on a contract job that was paying $40K/yr (which I was laid off from less than two weeks after the decree was finalized). Since then, I have been unable to hold a steady job, due to the job market here in Dallas. I am an IT professional... jobs are few and far between. Everyone that I have attempted to get help from tells me that everyone uses this excuse. They got fired, and can't work anymore... just to get out of child support. Unfortunately, it's not an excuse... it's my life. I left my ex because our marriage was dead, and I found someone that made me feel ALIVE again! I now have a family of three, and I'm just barely able to support my family. We get a little further behind every month. I'll get a contract for a couple of months (just enough to get caught up), and then get laid off for a couple of months. This has been going on for over a year. About 7 months ago, my ex sent me a registered letter informing me of her whereabouts, and that she moved because I have been unable to pay any child support since our divorce.
The score is 1 and 1... she can't do anything because she screwed up by leaving the area without notifying me or getting permission, and any movement on her part might spark a lawsuit on my part. I can't do anything because I haven't paid child support, and any movement on my part might spark a lawsuit on her part.
What can be done? I have been told that I cannot change the child support decree until all owed child support has been paid. Under my current circumstances, that is impossible... and it keeps racking up at that ungodly rate every month. Until that is taken care of, I cannot pursue getting the visitation modified. Until the visitation is modified, I cannot see my son.
I have had no contact with my ex since Fathers day weekend of 2001. I have had no contact with my son since Fathers day weekend 2001. I have to try not to think about him just to be able to make it through the day... and there's no light at the end of the tunnel. Does anyone have any good news?
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