What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? FLORIDA
Not a newbie but its been a long time. I was hoping I wouldnt have to come here again. No offense. LOL! I was just hoping not to have anymore issues with this man.
We have been divorced for 2 and a half years. We have one son who is now 10.
Since we got divorced he has moved 3 times and has had and lost at least 3 or 4 jobs. This is nothing new.
Recently he came to me with papers demanding that I sign them so he can get his child support lowered because he could only find a job that isnt full time and only pays 9 dollars an hour. He is living off 500 a month and cant pay his other bills. At first I let him bully me into signing the papers. When he came back with more, I did some research and made some calls. Found out I dont have to sign his papers and told him so. He threatened to get a laywer and take me to court. I told him to do what he had to do.
I dont care if a judge lowers his child support. I learned a long time ago not to live dependent on it. He is over 3000 dollars behind. I realize this isnt a lot compared to most but it is what it is. The point is, I have made everything easy on him since we seperated and I dont feel the need to do so anymore. The man has scared me for years and I fully believe that before this is over he will have physically harmed me. After years of abuse, I had no proof of it.
So, when I refused to sign the financial papers (mainly because I wasnt giving him that information myself. If a judge do so then so be it.) he said he would take me to court. Fine. Lets go. He somehow started beliving I have a lawyer. I dont. He sent me many text messages asking why I got a lawyer, and when I wouldnt respond to him, he wanted to know why I wouldnt communicate with him. I will communicate with him through text messages for anything concerning our son but I will no longer talk to him, or his girlfriend about anything else. I will no longer talk to his girlfriend about anything.
I also told him two weeks ago that I would no longer be driving the hour long trip to where he moved to to drop off and pick up our son. That he could come here to pick him up and drop off. All this time I have been willing to work with him and have done whatever he wanted. Partly to make things easier for me and our son, partly because I was scared of him. Its habit to just bend to him. When I saw him interact with our son one day, and he acted like he didnt even know who he was...and add to that the fact that he wont get a job that pays enough to pay his child support and his bills. And knowing that he is probably 30,000 dollars in debt because he is not responsible for anything, I decided I wasnt going to make anything easier on him anymore. If he gets the child support lowered then fine. But I wasnt going to just let him railroad me.
Today his girlfriend texted me and said she wasnt bringing our son back and for me to meet her out there. I texted back and said she could meet me at the sheriff's office down the street at 6 and if he wasnt there I was calling the police and I would no longer deal with her, but only with my ex. That set off countless phone calls and text messages.
Basically, I am a bitch, they are going to take him from me if I keep fighting them. I am not doing anything against our court order. We have nothing concerning dropping off and picking up because when we went to court he was supposedly still living here in town. I knew he wasnt but I couldnt prove it. I am actually FOLLOWING the court order. I have done everything to work with him for the last 3 years. Now, because I wont give him his way, he is trying to bully me and threaten me. He said that me not working with him is the same as me denying him his visitation, which I have never, EVER, done!!!
So...am I in trouble here? Can he possibly take my son away because I refuse to allow him to keep bullying me?
What should I do next?
Not a newbie but its been a long time. I was hoping I wouldnt have to come here again. No offense. LOL! I was just hoping not to have anymore issues with this man.
We have been divorced for 2 and a half years. We have one son who is now 10.
Since we got divorced he has moved 3 times and has had and lost at least 3 or 4 jobs. This is nothing new.
Recently he came to me with papers demanding that I sign them so he can get his child support lowered because he could only find a job that isnt full time and only pays 9 dollars an hour. He is living off 500 a month and cant pay his other bills. At first I let him bully me into signing the papers. When he came back with more, I did some research and made some calls. Found out I dont have to sign his papers and told him so. He threatened to get a laywer and take me to court. I told him to do what he had to do.
I dont care if a judge lowers his child support. I learned a long time ago not to live dependent on it. He is over 3000 dollars behind. I realize this isnt a lot compared to most but it is what it is. The point is, I have made everything easy on him since we seperated and I dont feel the need to do so anymore. The man has scared me for years and I fully believe that before this is over he will have physically harmed me. After years of abuse, I had no proof of it.
So, when I refused to sign the financial papers (mainly because I wasnt giving him that information myself. If a judge do so then so be it.) he said he would take me to court. Fine. Lets go. He somehow started beliving I have a lawyer. I dont. He sent me many text messages asking why I got a lawyer, and when I wouldnt respond to him, he wanted to know why I wouldnt communicate with him. I will communicate with him through text messages for anything concerning our son but I will no longer talk to him, or his girlfriend about anything else. I will no longer talk to his girlfriend about anything.
I also told him two weeks ago that I would no longer be driving the hour long trip to where he moved to to drop off and pick up our son. That he could come here to pick him up and drop off. All this time I have been willing to work with him and have done whatever he wanted. Partly to make things easier for me and our son, partly because I was scared of him. Its habit to just bend to him. When I saw him interact with our son one day, and he acted like he didnt even know who he was...and add to that the fact that he wont get a job that pays enough to pay his child support and his bills. And knowing that he is probably 30,000 dollars in debt because he is not responsible for anything, I decided I wasnt going to make anything easier on him anymore. If he gets the child support lowered then fine. But I wasnt going to just let him railroad me.
Today his girlfriend texted me and said she wasnt bringing our son back and for me to meet her out there. I texted back and said she could meet me at the sheriff's office down the street at 6 and if he wasnt there I was calling the police and I would no longer deal with her, but only with my ex. That set off countless phone calls and text messages.
Basically, I am a bitch, they are going to take him from me if I keep fighting them. I am not doing anything against our court order. We have nothing concerning dropping off and picking up because when we went to court he was supposedly still living here in town. I knew he wasnt but I couldnt prove it. I am actually FOLLOWING the court order. I have done everything to work with him for the last 3 years. Now, because I wont give him his way, he is trying to bully me and threaten me. He said that me not working with him is the same as me denying him his visitation, which I have never, EVER, done!!!
So...am I in trouble here? Can he possibly take my son away because I refuse to allow him to keep bullying me?
What should I do next?