What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Louisiana
I really need help because my husband and I are fighting over this.
My ex-boyfriend and I had a daughter and split up a few years after she was born; she is now a teenager. We now have joint legal custody with me being the primary physical parent. He had every other weekend with her, split holidays and all summer with her except for every other weekend when she would come home and then I had one week of visitation with her.
I think this was more than generous because he has had alot of problems since we broke up, including being married to a woman who was on drugs. They had two kids together and somehow he wound up with full custody, but his youngest daughter has been staying with his mom for the last couple of years while he supposedly finished up school. He's been in school forever so I don't even know if he was really in school or not.
He had told me last year that he and his supposed fiancee (they say their engaged, but they've been engaged for a really long time so I don't know why theyre not marired yet) were planning on moving out of state when she graduated from college so she could go to school again...for like graduate school or something. He wanted to work out a plan with me on our daughter for visitation that we would submit to the judge together so we wouldn't have to pay for attorneys again. I don't like the idea of my daughter flying by herself, so I never really agreed to anything. I feel like since he is the one who is putting his girlfriend before our child, he should be the one to make the sacrifices to see her.
Well his mom wasn't happy that they wanted to move and take his youngest daughter with them because she has been taking care of her and she has alot of problems because the girl's mom (his ex-wife) was on drugs. So his mom filed for custody of the girl before they moved and took her. They are in court over that, and his mom called me and asked if me and my daughter would testify against him. She said that her attorney said that since my daughter is his oldest and is there alot that it would really help her case.
He got really mad when he found out that our daughter was testifying against him and she told me that he and his girlfirend said alot of mean things to her, like she isn't respecting him and is ungreatful. I think this is another reason why she shouldn't be allowed to see him anymore.
My daughter is really upset that her dad and his girlfirend/fiancee/whatever said these things to her, and she is mad that he has moved away from her. He never puts her first. But then, I got papers saying that he is fighting me for sole custody of her! He wants her to live with them, and he said all these things like I'm "emotionally abusive" to her and that supposedly this isn't the first time I've violated the court order! I've never violated the court order, I have just done what is right for my daughter!
My husband is angry because he told me that my ex would probably bring me back to court for getting my daughter involved with her grandmother's fight, but I think he is crazy and shouldn't be taking care of any of his kids. There is one daughter that is still with him and his fiancee that his mom is not fighting him for, and I think that kid is in danger too. But she's not mine so I am not worried about her because that is their problem.
My daughter doesn't want to leave and she is really upset that her dad is doing this, but my husband told me that I may get in trouble because I did not bring her back to him after the weekend I was supposed to have her in July. But now he is out of state and I don't want her traveling by herself, especially when I don't know how he and his girlfirend are going to treat her. What should I do???