mayuriinabox
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So you don't think it is possible that during the "get to you know" phased in period that the court could order that dad has time every Saturday or Sunday for four/six/eight hours for a period of a month or two? Then it increases to overnights once a week (think every Friday or Saturday night) for a month or two before it goes to every other weekend? Really? You think that is completely and totally impossible and will NEVER happen because it is Georgia? That is a very short amount of time (two to six months) that mom would not have full weekends (but neither would dad) and I think it is probable that dad would get some time like this scheduled. These parents live a few hours apart. If either mom or dad works when is there going to be enough time for travel other than a weekend in order to make sure dad gets frequent consistent visitation. I find the fact that you are so determined that something like this WILL NOT happen preposterous. I am correct in stating that this is very possible and MAY be ordered (or something similar). No where did I state that dad would get every weekend for ever. But for the phased in portion of the program, it is very possible. Happens quite a bit actually. So again, I state to you READ WHAT I STATED AGAIN. it is not that difficult.
You are right on that. I proposed a phased in plan with the parenting plan I submitted. Apparently he REALLY didn't like that- his lawyer told me that there was no way he would agree to that. I understand that the lawyer will most definitely aim for and push for more... But I do firmly believe that he read the papers, probably got just as mad at my proposal as I did to his.
I have several plans available in regards to phased in parenting. Seeing as how my son is 18 months, I asked for a six month phasing in. Starting with (maybe supervised? daytime visitation, evolving to longer hours, then overnight once every other weekend and then the full weekend I proposed- which is second and fourth fridays from 6pm to sunday at 6pm. This would give us both time to have the child bathed, fed, and ready for bed by 8-8:30, which is his normal bedtime (we have a very good schedule going, he sleeps throughout the night. )
I do think the father will contest this as much as possible- he has always been very impatient.. but that could really be his downfall for his case.. if he gets too angry that things aren't going the way he planned. ( If it says anything as to why I am worried.. when I was pregnant, I didn't want to stay the night so he threatened suicide with a gun.. which is when I called 911. He is known for these acts. )
But that being said... I'd be more than willing to start with a few hours each weekend. That would be fine. As for every weekend.. We do have family that the child loves to see. A few of our cousins that just make his day.. and we see them every other weekend- just about.
As for the length of my phased in proposal.. I realize that its a long shot to have it go on that long.. But maybe its something we can negotiate in mediation.
I keep hearing all these stories about mothers not having lawyers and losing their case because of it. I'm a single mom- my dad has a room in my apt (my mother died last year three months after my son was born), it is MY apartment, I pay all my bills, I work part time while looking for full time, have my own car, takes the child to ALL appointments, but my income is fairly low. Not low enough to deprive my son of anything, but significantly lower than the fathers.
I'm afraid that they will use the fact that he is married, has a child, and has more money to try and get what he wants. D:
EDIT: Also, the lawyers I have talked to here all state that there is a mandatory parenting class that the father and I would both have to attend.. and mediation is also mandatory.