What is the name of your state? California
I was in a relationship that resulted in my daughter who is now 3 1/2. The father has constantly taken me to court fighting for more time, more time. At the age of 5 mos. he served me with papers for visitation when at the time he had visitation with our daughter in my home. After becoming demanding of me and verbally abusive, I said he could no longer have visits in my home therefore he took me to court. His stated he wants 50/50 joint physical custody. As of now, I have physical custody and we both have joint legal. He has visits every other weekend and two mid-week visits Wed/Thurs from 4:30-7pm. When our daughter is sick and I suggest she stay home, he accuses me of violating his visits and wants a make-up date. He also demands he sees her when she's sick stating "I can take care of a sick child too". He has never commuicated with me in 3yrs re. our daughter except when in court. He states he wants no suggestions from me and what he does with her on his time is his business. It has become beyond frustrating. Last year he moved in with a woman and my daughter was sleeping there every other weekend. Neither of them would speak to me re. my chid and the court would not permit me any rights to view her sleeping quarter. My question is, can this man just continue to take me back and forth to court demanding more time until he gets his 50/50 custody!! Now that our daughter is starting pre-school he says he's going to take me again and aske for another mid-week overnight. He is 40yr. old and lives at home with his mother, sisters and their children in a 3 bedroom apt. It worries me sick and I feel I have no rights as the custodial parent. I feel the courts are in favor of him just because he pays child support and is an African American man who wants to see his child. Having taught children, I know shuffling our daughter back and forth would be a detriment given the circustances however I don't know how to protect myself from this happening. Pls Advise !!!!!
I was in a relationship that resulted in my daughter who is now 3 1/2. The father has constantly taken me to court fighting for more time, more time. At the age of 5 mos. he served me with papers for visitation when at the time he had visitation with our daughter in my home. After becoming demanding of me and verbally abusive, I said he could no longer have visits in my home therefore he took me to court. His stated he wants 50/50 joint physical custody. As of now, I have physical custody and we both have joint legal. He has visits every other weekend and two mid-week visits Wed/Thurs from 4:30-7pm. When our daughter is sick and I suggest she stay home, he accuses me of violating his visits and wants a make-up date. He also demands he sees her when she's sick stating "I can take care of a sick child too". He has never commuicated with me in 3yrs re. our daughter except when in court. He states he wants no suggestions from me and what he does with her on his time is his business. It has become beyond frustrating. Last year he moved in with a woman and my daughter was sleeping there every other weekend. Neither of them would speak to me re. my chid and the court would not permit me any rights to view her sleeping quarter. My question is, can this man just continue to take me back and forth to court demanding more time until he gets his 50/50 custody!! Now that our daughter is starting pre-school he says he's going to take me again and aske for another mid-week overnight. He is 40yr. old and lives at home with his mother, sisters and their children in a 3 bedroom apt. It worries me sick and I feel I have no rights as the custodial parent. I feel the courts are in favor of him just because he pays child support and is an African American man who wants to see his child. Having taught children, I know shuffling our daughter back and forth would be a detriment given the circustances however I don't know how to protect myself from this happening. Pls Advise !!!!!