UnbornChild
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What is the name of your state? Wa
My son is 21 years old. His ex-girlfriend is 23. They dated for 7 months, she ended up pregnant and now does not want anything to do with him. As all of these situations are complicated, this one is too.
I will try to explain what I think is in her mind based on events that have occurred in recent months. I am not saying that I believe all or any of it, only what I "think" is going on in her mind. She is a christian girl that must hold up her reputation at her church. Her issue is that she was a virgin before meeting my son (at 23) and he coerced her into having sex with him within 3 weeks of meeting and continuing for the entire 7 month dating period. She has always wanted to "give herself" to her husband and now that she is pregnant, she will not be able to do that. (Sounds crazy, I know)
My son talked her out of an abortion. She went from an abortion to giving the baby up for adoption to now. She currently is saing that she will raise the baby, but my son is not to have anything to do with the baby. "The baby", she says, "will be raised in a real christian home" (unlike ours, I suppose?) When asking fr basic information such as a due date, my son is told to contact her pastor. There have been two failed meetings with this pastor. The first was about the pastor being sure my son understood that he was a thief (for stealing her virginity) and a thief is not worthy of raising a child. He also encouraged my son to consider adoption. It's no surprise that he has a pastor-friend that he would like to see receive the baby. The second meeting had the pastor telling my son that he was disappointed that my son was at the meeting with "motives". The "motives" were actually "purposes", in my opinion. My son is trying to respect her wishes for no contact except through the pastor. I beleive he should not contact this "nut" (the pastor) again. But how does he get his basic information? Or does he? He would like to know a due date. He would like to be at the hospital when the baby is due. He would like a custody & visitation agreement. When and how would he begin to demand these things? Or could he?
Thank you for any help offered.
My son is 21 years old. His ex-girlfriend is 23. They dated for 7 months, she ended up pregnant and now does not want anything to do with him. As all of these situations are complicated, this one is too.
I will try to explain what I think is in her mind based on events that have occurred in recent months. I am not saying that I believe all or any of it, only what I "think" is going on in her mind. She is a christian girl that must hold up her reputation at her church. Her issue is that she was a virgin before meeting my son (at 23) and he coerced her into having sex with him within 3 weeks of meeting and continuing for the entire 7 month dating period. She has always wanted to "give herself" to her husband and now that she is pregnant, she will not be able to do that. (Sounds crazy, I know)
My son talked her out of an abortion. She went from an abortion to giving the baby up for adoption to now. She currently is saing that she will raise the baby, but my son is not to have anything to do with the baby. "The baby", she says, "will be raised in a real christian home" (unlike ours, I suppose?) When asking fr basic information such as a due date, my son is told to contact her pastor. There have been two failed meetings with this pastor. The first was about the pastor being sure my son understood that he was a thief (for stealing her virginity) and a thief is not worthy of raising a child. He also encouraged my son to consider adoption. It's no surprise that he has a pastor-friend that he would like to see receive the baby. The second meeting had the pastor telling my son that he was disappointed that my son was at the meeting with "motives". The "motives" were actually "purposes", in my opinion. My son is trying to respect her wishes for no contact except through the pastor. I beleive he should not contact this "nut" (the pastor) again. But how does he get his basic information? Or does he? He would like to know a due date. He would like to be at the hospital when the baby is due. He would like a custody & visitation agreement. When and how would he begin to demand these things? Or could he?
Thank you for any help offered.