CPS and warrents
We were advised by counsel that if they want to come out and you refuse that OUR court is pretty lenient on the CPS side of things and will generally issue a warrant. They would rather error on the side of caution.
Not knowing WHY cps wanted to come it was hard to be sure if they would/could get one.
Mom is beyond angry with dad and they only speak through attorneys at the moment, so it was a concern of ours as well as the atty's that mom may have been trying to sling mud during the visit to her home. She has done a bunch of mud slinging through the 4yr old (just about us) telling her we are bad and trying to make her never see her mommy again, that she shouldn't like me (why me im not sure as I'm not in court with her filing for custody etc) telling her that our rules don't matter that she can do what she wants and that Mom will "fix" us so that we are bang dead/and or spank us etc.... That being said someone who would say that to a 4yr old and frighten her to tears probably would be willing to say anything to anyone... Even CPS.
Again the atty advised that we speak with CPS but keep our guards up if it looked like an investigation rather than a friendly visit.
The atty did ask us a lot of questions about our home, etc etc etc before she told us to let them come, Im guessing she was looking for reasons we might fail and if she had felt there was a risk of a bad visit she would have told us to deny entry. The atty ask about cleanliness, toys, clothing, food, if water lights gas etc were all in working order etc.
In the end a good visit only affirms that we are good people who provide good care for his daughter. Even if her visit didn't go badly (they still won't talk to dad about her visit) a positive visit at our home only proves on paper that he is a good dad living in a safe loving home. It cuts all arguments about the quality of our home right off at the knees.
We were advised by counsel that if they want to come out and you refuse that OUR court is pretty lenient on the CPS side of things and will generally issue a warrant. They would rather error on the side of caution.
Not knowing WHY cps wanted to come it was hard to be sure if they would/could get one.
Mom is beyond angry with dad and they only speak through attorneys at the moment, so it was a concern of ours as well as the atty's that mom may have been trying to sling mud during the visit to her home. She has done a bunch of mud slinging through the 4yr old (just about us) telling her we are bad and trying to make her never see her mommy again, that she shouldn't like me (why me im not sure as I'm not in court with her filing for custody etc) telling her that our rules don't matter that she can do what she wants and that Mom will "fix" us so that we are bang dead/and or spank us etc.... That being said someone who would say that to a 4yr old and frighten her to tears probably would be willing to say anything to anyone... Even CPS.
Again the atty advised that we speak with CPS but keep our guards up if it looked like an investigation rather than a friendly visit.
The atty did ask us a lot of questions about our home, etc etc etc before she told us to let them come, Im guessing she was looking for reasons we might fail and if she had felt there was a risk of a bad visit she would have told us to deny entry. The atty ask about cleanliness, toys, clothing, food, if water lights gas etc were all in working order etc.
In the end a good visit only affirms that we are good people who provide good care for his daughter. Even if her visit didn't go badly (they still won't talk to dad about her visit) a positive visit at our home only proves on paper that he is a good dad living in a safe loving home. It cuts all arguments about the quality of our home right off at the knees.