What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
Hi, first after looking through this forum it is important that I state my relationship to this case as the girlfriend.
Up until a month ago I was the primary care giver to my boyfriend's daughter from approx 7am-9pm M-Sat, during those days he would have 2 week days off work that he would spend at home with us and on sundays she (daughter) would always be home with her mother. The child is 4 was three when this began and did not attend school at the time.
This arrangement began because mom worked a lot of hours and needed child care, I worked from home and later on in the arrangement left my position to provide as best care i could for her (boyfriends daughter). She and I got along very well and although at times tensions were high between her and Dad they also got along fairly well. She was sporatically paying me anywhere from 50-100 dollars a week for groceries and clothing items as the child generally came to my home in her PJ's.
At this time Mom had full physical and legal custody due to an unmarried situation that dad had never contested, previous to the break down a month ago dad had seen the child 2x+ every week with little resistance from mom as long as he never requested sundays as they have been mom's only day off work each week since the child was born.
about a month ago mom and dad got into it over the rules in our home (rules like you must eat your dinner, don't choke the cat to death and stay off the stairs) they got into it over the phone and she came to collect the child from my care mid day one Thursday afternoon after hours of telephone fighting with him (mom and dad fighting, i was uninvolved in the argument). A month later a judge set up a 50/50 type situation between the two of them and we have been doing that. (Child is overnight here M, W and Thurs)
During the court battle she came to my home with her boyfriend (who was recently released from his third stretch in prison, he has spent the last 15 out of 20 years incarcerated) and the two of them threw a very large rock through our picture window, we took photos of them in our yard the plates on the cars etc etc etc, and pressed charges. Around this time CPS was contacted because either the child was in the car with them at 4am when they committed the crime at our home OR they left her home alone. We drove to their home and took photos of the cars in the driveway that night as well the only two cars that were there were hers and his, she does not deny his involvement and states that he acted alone (funny because we have photos of the two of them) these types of criminal charges take quite a bit of time to play out in my city but the police have since issued warrants for them both (they won't pick up on these types of issues due to budget cuts)
CPS was contacted about the incident at our home other allegations were also made, we are unsure who called but have a good idea.
CPS has visited her home since and when they did it did not go well from what we understand (although getting a straight answer out of them is pretty tough) their visit to her home was unannounced and on a holiday.
Yesterday we (my boyfriend and i) were each contacted separately ask a ton of strange questions (like are you of native American decent? odd because my name is scottish and his name is irish (complete with an O'xxx) then the CPS worker ask if we were available for an informal visit to our home this week, they let us pick the day and time. We selected tomorrow at 1:30 we were both ask to be home his daughter will be here as well at that time.
What is CPS looking for when they come here? my house is reasonably clean, but like any home with a man, a kid, and a couple of pets running around I could probably spend hours cleaning and not achieve "museum clean".... There aren't like dirty dishes in the sink, or rodents/ants, but im sure i wouldn't have to look real hard to find a dust bunny. My fridge and pantry are always pretty well stocked with snacks, leftovers and staple foods.
How nervous should we be? How nervous should I be? Should I devote the rest of my day to deep cleaning? Or is lived in acceptable? (I might have 6 loads of dirty laundry in the basement next to the machine) Everyone still has plenty of socks undies and general clothing even with the dirty laundry (which is mostly mine! yikes!)
Is it ok if there is beer in the fridge? (like 6 beers)
I called our atty today but have not gotten a call back. Just need to know if im getting all worked up over nothing. seems like if they gave us notice they don't suspect anything bad is going on here.
Mom has been going on since the visit to her home that "she thinks they are trying to take her away" As well as she has made several statments that they won't tell her what her "results" were no matter how much she calls. I know they tested her for drugs, and I would be very surprised to learn that there was food in the house when they visited as they tend to only eat out given mom's work schedule.
Any help would be most appreciated.