dadincalifornia
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA
Long story short my ex and I had a custody battle for 2 years. I am the father and I have majority custody of our 3 yr old daughter. 1 year ago we entered into co-parenting counseling. That really helped us and I took responsibility for being the cause of our problems and we ended up getting back together. We have been back together for over a year but it hasn't been all peaches & cream. THe mother was ordered not to have weekend custody because she had taken our daughter to late night parties on the weekends where alcohol and guns were present.
The mother has been very demanding and I have been trying to keep the peace by doing whatever I can for her, including buying her food, clothes, etc. We don't live together we still have seperate residences but I would come over and stay the night. The mother didn't even take our daughter on mother's day.
Recently she got angry with me because I wouldn't stay the night, I had to go help my mother. She ended up filing for a custody change to get our daughter on weekends making it sound like she is afraid and terrified of me using texts from 6 months ago. She is omitting the fact we have been in an intimate relationship for the past year, and she just said she doesnt want to have anything to do with me 2 weeks ago.
Another thing is, our daughter spit at her and the mother slapped her in the face right in front of me. We have court orders not to use corporal punishment but she does. She threatens to hit our daughter.
We have mediation coming up and I am wondering how the mediator will see her claims. There has been no change in circumstances other than she keeps changing her work and college schedule and expecting me to change her custody days.
In my mediation documents I want to let the mediator know she is not afraid of me, we have been in a relationship and she is doing this just for her convenience. But I am concerned that the mediator will not want to hear about our personal relationship. Please give me some guidance from an objective point of view on how the mediator will see her request. I am requesting that we keep the status quo since the mother's schedule keeps changing and she is not providing stability for our daughter.
Thank you
Long story short my ex and I had a custody battle for 2 years. I am the father and I have majority custody of our 3 yr old daughter. 1 year ago we entered into co-parenting counseling. That really helped us and I took responsibility for being the cause of our problems and we ended up getting back together. We have been back together for over a year but it hasn't been all peaches & cream. THe mother was ordered not to have weekend custody because she had taken our daughter to late night parties on the weekends where alcohol and guns were present.
The mother has been very demanding and I have been trying to keep the peace by doing whatever I can for her, including buying her food, clothes, etc. We don't live together we still have seperate residences but I would come over and stay the night. The mother didn't even take our daughter on mother's day.
Recently she got angry with me because I wouldn't stay the night, I had to go help my mother. She ended up filing for a custody change to get our daughter on weekends making it sound like she is afraid and terrified of me using texts from 6 months ago. She is omitting the fact we have been in an intimate relationship for the past year, and she just said she doesnt want to have anything to do with me 2 weeks ago.
Another thing is, our daughter spit at her and the mother slapped her in the face right in front of me. We have court orders not to use corporal punishment but she does. She threatens to hit our daughter.
We have mediation coming up and I am wondering how the mediator will see her claims. There has been no change in circumstances other than she keeps changing her work and college schedule and expecting me to change her custody days.
In my mediation documents I want to let the mediator know she is not afraid of me, we have been in a relationship and she is doing this just for her convenience. But I am concerned that the mediator will not want to hear about our personal relationship. Please give me some guidance from an objective point of view on how the mediator will see her request. I am requesting that we keep the status quo since the mother's schedule keeps changing and she is not providing stability for our daughter.
Thank you