What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Arizona
My boyfriend and I are having a baby (currently 28 weeks), we are not married but have lived together for 1 1/2 years. His mother got very upset with me because I did not want to find out the sex of the child, and she threatened to take custody of the child once born.
You may need to know more about my situation--my boyfriend brings in the income at this point, I am in school and can only offer leftovers from student loans to contribute to bills. We do have a stable, reliable income though, my boyfriend is paid hourly at a 40+/hr week job. We have our own place and do not live with any other family members, we are both adults (26 and 29). We have every intention of staying together and creating a stable family life. We have made arrangements for child care when I can no longer take online courses and must return to campus for class and lab/research work. His mother already has custody of another grandchild (his sister went to jail, custody was given to grandma and has never been restored to the parent). Her income is from disability and social security. She insists that grandparents have the right to visitation and even custody if she wishes it.
I am against her having custody, obviously, I want my child and family. I am hesitant to visitation because of her blatant issues with me, and also because she had severe brain trauma and has had documentable problems with cognition and personality. I am not convinced that she has a reliable memory (I am not a doctor or therapist, yet, but do think she could benefit from seeing one) because she has made up stories about my boyfriend hitting her that never occured. She has recounted various other events that did not actually happen but has done so with such conviction I am not sure if she knows she is making things up or if she really believes what she is saying (I have had to fact-check her when she recounts the past to me).
I apologize for rambling, I want to give as much detail to my story as possible because it could be relevant. I want to know if she could take my child from me in the future or if the courts could mandate visitation with her and if so what to expect with that. I appreciate any help.
My boyfriend and I are having a baby (currently 28 weeks), we are not married but have lived together for 1 1/2 years. His mother got very upset with me because I did not want to find out the sex of the child, and she threatened to take custody of the child once born.
You may need to know more about my situation--my boyfriend brings in the income at this point, I am in school and can only offer leftovers from student loans to contribute to bills. We do have a stable, reliable income though, my boyfriend is paid hourly at a 40+/hr week job. We have our own place and do not live with any other family members, we are both adults (26 and 29). We have every intention of staying together and creating a stable family life. We have made arrangements for child care when I can no longer take online courses and must return to campus for class and lab/research work. His mother already has custody of another grandchild (his sister went to jail, custody was given to grandma and has never been restored to the parent). Her income is from disability and social security. She insists that grandparents have the right to visitation and even custody if she wishes it.
I am against her having custody, obviously, I want my child and family. I am hesitant to visitation because of her blatant issues with me, and also because she had severe brain trauma and has had documentable problems with cognition and personality. I am not convinced that she has a reliable memory (I am not a doctor or therapist, yet, but do think she could benefit from seeing one) because she has made up stories about my boyfriend hitting her that never occured. She has recounted various other events that did not actually happen but has done so with such conviction I am not sure if she knows she is making things up or if she really believes what she is saying (I have had to fact-check her when she recounts the past to me).
I apologize for rambling, I want to give as much detail to my story as possible because it could be relevant. I want to know if she could take my child from me in the future or if the courts could mandate visitation with her and if so what to expect with that. I appreciate any help.
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