scaredmom123
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What is the name of your state? OH
I have been taking my daughter to a counselor, because of anxiety problems that were diagnosed by a doctor. The counselor informed us that the anxiety stems from visits to her fathers, and called CYS to report child neglect last week. (He is sleeping the entire day and my daughter is sitting there waiting for him to wake up with nothing to eat!!) My daughter is afraid of him because he is very paranoid and yells at her, plus is very violent and cusses me out during exchange.
I have paperwork drawn up with my lawyer, we are waiting for the CYS paperwork to go through. The lawyer does not want to jump the gun he said. I am seeking supervised visitation, and no overnights. The father gets her for 3 weeks out of the summer, not consecutive. He does not watch my daughter during this time ... he ships her off to whomever his girlfriend is at the time or sometimes he will ship her off to stay with his ex-wife and their child. I don't see how this is okay since it states in my paperwork that if the parent will not be home for an overnight the other parent has first option to take the child. When I mentioned this at our last conciliation meeting (about 2 years ago.) I was told that the father can do what he wants with my child during "his time." Does this sound right????
I am feeling trapped by a poor system. My daughter is the victim here. She is not being supervised, not fed, sleeping on a dirty floor or in bed with her father in a filthy environment!!!
About the first and most important issue ... the visitation and anxiety problems ... my lawyer has advised me that I could not send my child with her father the next time because he is not taking care of her. Yes, I will be in contempt of a court order ... but he said that it is for a good reason. I'm nervous about this because I don't want my daughter to be in a neglectful environment ... plus, I do not want to risk losing custody because I am not following court orders. I have had custody of my daughter since day one. I was never married to the father. He only sees her every other weekend and does not come to any school or after-school activities, does not participate in medical decisions or anything else pertaining to my daughter. He does pay child support, not happy about it, but does it. I wondered what the feeling was here about my situation ... does everyone here feel that I can rightfully refuse to give the father visitation at his next weekend?? I feel it is morally the right thing to do to protect my child until we can get a court date and modify the visitation. What does everyone here think?????
I have been taking my daughter to a counselor, because of anxiety problems that were diagnosed by a doctor. The counselor informed us that the anxiety stems from visits to her fathers, and called CYS to report child neglect last week. (He is sleeping the entire day and my daughter is sitting there waiting for him to wake up with nothing to eat!!) My daughter is afraid of him because he is very paranoid and yells at her, plus is very violent and cusses me out during exchange.
I have paperwork drawn up with my lawyer, we are waiting for the CYS paperwork to go through. The lawyer does not want to jump the gun he said. I am seeking supervised visitation, and no overnights. The father gets her for 3 weeks out of the summer, not consecutive. He does not watch my daughter during this time ... he ships her off to whomever his girlfriend is at the time or sometimes he will ship her off to stay with his ex-wife and their child. I don't see how this is okay since it states in my paperwork that if the parent will not be home for an overnight the other parent has first option to take the child. When I mentioned this at our last conciliation meeting (about 2 years ago.) I was told that the father can do what he wants with my child during "his time." Does this sound right????
I am feeling trapped by a poor system. My daughter is the victim here. She is not being supervised, not fed, sleeping on a dirty floor or in bed with her father in a filthy environment!!!
About the first and most important issue ... the visitation and anxiety problems ... my lawyer has advised me that I could not send my child with her father the next time because he is not taking care of her. Yes, I will be in contempt of a court order ... but he said that it is for a good reason. I'm nervous about this because I don't want my daughter to be in a neglectful environment ... plus, I do not want to risk losing custody because I am not following court orders. I have had custody of my daughter since day one. I was never married to the father. He only sees her every other weekend and does not come to any school or after-school activities, does not participate in medical decisions or anything else pertaining to my daughter. He does pay child support, not happy about it, but does it. I wondered what the feeling was here about my situation ... does everyone here feel that I can rightfully refuse to give the father visitation at his next weekend?? I feel it is morally the right thing to do to protect my child until we can get a court date and modify the visitation. What does everyone here think?????