What is the name of your state? Virginia
Ok my ex-wife has physical custody of our 2 children (12 and 10 years old) during the school year, and I have summer custody. I get 3 weekends a month visitation during her custody, plus a 2 week block, and 1/2 of breaks from school, every other year for holidays, and my birthday, father's day, and Christmas Eve every year with my kids, and I have fought for all of this in court to obtain it. Now we've had our problems in the past, but overall no one has ever done anything extreme, all of it has been kind of minor stuff up until March. In March my ex-wife started with-holding custody/visitation from me of both of my kids, and she said me and my current wife had mentally abused both my kids and physically abused my 10 year old. This was all said because my 12 year old got in trouble at my house because for instance when I took her to the movies, she snuck out with her boyfriend and was over at our local park doing god knows what at 11:00 at night, so when I found out I got on to her and told her if she couldn't tell me the truth about where she was going then she wouldn't go anywhere, then my 10 year old got in my wife's face and screamed and hollered at her so she popped my 10 year old in the mouth (no blood, no bruises, no marks of any kind). By the way in the state of Virginia physical disciplne is allowed. Then my kids were also unhappy because they were going to be grounded for the D's they made on their report cards. Now 2 more weeks passed and the last weekend my ex sent the kids was hers by court order, but had asked me to switch with her, because of her work schedule, then when my kids went home on that Monday they were suppose to come back on Tuesday because it was my birthday, and they never did. Also my ex had already went to Child Protective Services over eveything, and my wife and I had to meet with her that morning on my birthday. So when the kids didn't get off the bus I called my ex to ask where they were and she said she had already filed her papers in court and that I should be getting them anyday and that she wasn't sending the kids until court and hung up on me. So, for a month and a half I didn't have contact of any kind with my children (she had her phone disconnected) except I sent my kids an Easter card in the mail and I filed my show causes every time I missed a visitation. We went to court on April 28th and my 10 year old testified that she didn't ever want to come back to my house, and my 12 year old said she wanted to come and go as she pleased, and the courts disagreed, found my-ex quilty on all of the show causes and took her weekends away until she made up the time I lost, and ordered her to start following the visitation/custody order that was in effect prior to all of this. Now the first visitation period was to be 2 days after court, and the 10 year old showed up and the 12 year old didn't. When I talked to my ex she said my 12 year old didn't want to come, but would in her own time, and I talked to my 12 year old and she said she just didn't want to come back here, and I asked her why and all she would say is she didn't know. So the next visitation period the 10 year old came and the 12 year old didn't again. This time my ex just said she was with her, and there was nothing that my-ex could do, and what did I want for herto do? To bring my 12 year old kicking and screaming and that if she did that my 12 year old would run away if my-ex made her come, and then my 12 year old told my that she never wanted to see me again, and I told her that I still loved her, and that I was sorry she felt that way, but what had I done that made her not want to come back, and she said I hadn't done anything, and she loved me too. Now this week I find out my ex asked the courts to appoint a guardian ad litem for my 12 year old, and one of her reasons is that she's complying with the court order, and that she offered to let me come get my 12 year old but I refused to come get my daughter. Does anyone know if this guardian ad litem will give me a chance to tell my side, and also how can anyone believe my ex has nothing to do with this when up until March when she started with-holding custody in the first place my 12 year old has even told my lawyer herself that she wanted things left the way they were, which included being with me. Also, I have a recorded message from my answering machine where my ex left a message saying guessed I had figured out by now that my 12 year old was with her, and that my 12 year old didn't want to come so to call my-ex. Someone please give advice on experiences with guardian ad litems, and any similar situations. Thanks.
Ok my ex-wife has physical custody of our 2 children (12 and 10 years old) during the school year, and I have summer custody. I get 3 weekends a month visitation during her custody, plus a 2 week block, and 1/2 of breaks from school, every other year for holidays, and my birthday, father's day, and Christmas Eve every year with my kids, and I have fought for all of this in court to obtain it. Now we've had our problems in the past, but overall no one has ever done anything extreme, all of it has been kind of minor stuff up until March. In March my ex-wife started with-holding custody/visitation from me of both of my kids, and she said me and my current wife had mentally abused both my kids and physically abused my 10 year old. This was all said because my 12 year old got in trouble at my house because for instance when I took her to the movies, she snuck out with her boyfriend and was over at our local park doing god knows what at 11:00 at night, so when I found out I got on to her and told her if she couldn't tell me the truth about where she was going then she wouldn't go anywhere, then my 10 year old got in my wife's face and screamed and hollered at her so she popped my 10 year old in the mouth (no blood, no bruises, no marks of any kind). By the way in the state of Virginia physical disciplne is allowed. Then my kids were also unhappy because they were going to be grounded for the D's they made on their report cards. Now 2 more weeks passed and the last weekend my ex sent the kids was hers by court order, but had asked me to switch with her, because of her work schedule, then when my kids went home on that Monday they were suppose to come back on Tuesday because it was my birthday, and they never did. Also my ex had already went to Child Protective Services over eveything, and my wife and I had to meet with her that morning on my birthday. So when the kids didn't get off the bus I called my ex to ask where they were and she said she had already filed her papers in court and that I should be getting them anyday and that she wasn't sending the kids until court and hung up on me. So, for a month and a half I didn't have contact of any kind with my children (she had her phone disconnected) except I sent my kids an Easter card in the mail and I filed my show causes every time I missed a visitation. We went to court on April 28th and my 10 year old testified that she didn't ever want to come back to my house, and my 12 year old said she wanted to come and go as she pleased, and the courts disagreed, found my-ex quilty on all of the show causes and took her weekends away until she made up the time I lost, and ordered her to start following the visitation/custody order that was in effect prior to all of this. Now the first visitation period was to be 2 days after court, and the 10 year old showed up and the 12 year old didn't. When I talked to my ex she said my 12 year old didn't want to come, but would in her own time, and I talked to my 12 year old and she said she just didn't want to come back here, and I asked her why and all she would say is she didn't know. So the next visitation period the 10 year old came and the 12 year old didn't again. This time my ex just said she was with her, and there was nothing that my-ex could do, and what did I want for herto do? To bring my 12 year old kicking and screaming and that if she did that my 12 year old would run away if my-ex made her come, and then my 12 year old told my that she never wanted to see me again, and I told her that I still loved her, and that I was sorry she felt that way, but what had I done that made her not want to come back, and she said I hadn't done anything, and she loved me too. Now this week I find out my ex asked the courts to appoint a guardian ad litem for my 12 year old, and one of her reasons is that she's complying with the court order, and that she offered to let me come get my 12 year old but I refused to come get my daughter. Does anyone know if this guardian ad litem will give me a chance to tell my side, and also how can anyone believe my ex has nothing to do with this when up until March when she started with-holding custody in the first place my 12 year old has even told my lawyer herself that she wanted things left the way they were, which included being with me. Also, I have a recorded message from my answering machine where my ex left a message saying guessed I had figured out by now that my 12 year old was with her, and that my 12 year old didn't want to come so to call my-ex. Someone please give advice on experiences with guardian ad litems, and any similar situations. Thanks.