California
My original post was as follows:
Mediator problems
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I am in the state of california. Is it possible to request another mediator if the one assigned to the case is not being fair. 4 months ago, our proposed agreement was that I continue in my drug addiction classes (which I enrolled in myself--not court ordered) and bring proof of attendance and progress to the next appointment with the mediator. She also at this time stated I was to go to 3 additional NA classes per week and bring proof of this. The father (who has 3 domestic violence convictions against me and battery against my teenage son was ordered to continue in his anger management classes. I showed my progress report from my addiction classes(which was great) to the mediator yesterday, she didn't even look at it and handed it back to me, I explained that I was unable to attend 3 NA classes per week as I am the supervisor of a layaway department in a major retail establishment and my schedule during the christmas season wouldn't permit it. I have to work to support my child. She interrupted me before I finished and told me she felt I was still struggling with my addiction. She asked the father about his anger management classes and when he told her he had missed a few because of his work schedule, she accepted it. This to me is BS. Now she wants to give custody to his mother. My son told me 2 days ago right out of the blue taht he always hears grandma saying bad things about me and expressed how angry this made him. He also said she asks him questions about me all the time. I dont know what to do. Now the mediator wants to talk to his mother and our 9 year old son. His father and I just want to drop the case because we both realize we can do this without the courts. Can we do this without this mediator involving CPS and if not can we get a different mediator?
New Question:
Last night he and his mother refused to let me see my son and I found out he is doing drugs again. Everything he has been telling me is a lie. We go back to court tomorrow, can I ask for a hair follicle test to be done on him? I am willing to pay for it. Can I get an attorney this late in the game, how can I do that if court is 8 in the morning and today is Sunday. I finally got my income tax check and can afford an attorney now. Please help. With him refusing to bring my son to see me last night, I'm afraid what he will do. I don't know what to do next.
My original post was as follows:
Mediator problems
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I am in the state of california. Is it possible to request another mediator if the one assigned to the case is not being fair. 4 months ago, our proposed agreement was that I continue in my drug addiction classes (which I enrolled in myself--not court ordered) and bring proof of attendance and progress to the next appointment with the mediator. She also at this time stated I was to go to 3 additional NA classes per week and bring proof of this. The father (who has 3 domestic violence convictions against me and battery against my teenage son was ordered to continue in his anger management classes. I showed my progress report from my addiction classes(which was great) to the mediator yesterday, she didn't even look at it and handed it back to me, I explained that I was unable to attend 3 NA classes per week as I am the supervisor of a layaway department in a major retail establishment and my schedule during the christmas season wouldn't permit it. I have to work to support my child. She interrupted me before I finished and told me she felt I was still struggling with my addiction. She asked the father about his anger management classes and when he told her he had missed a few because of his work schedule, she accepted it. This to me is BS. Now she wants to give custody to his mother. My son told me 2 days ago right out of the blue taht he always hears grandma saying bad things about me and expressed how angry this made him. He also said she asks him questions about me all the time. I dont know what to do. Now the mediator wants to talk to his mother and our 9 year old son. His father and I just want to drop the case because we both realize we can do this without the courts. Can we do this without this mediator involving CPS and if not can we get a different mediator?
New Question:
Last night he and his mother refused to let me see my son and I found out he is doing drugs again. Everything he has been telling me is a lie. We go back to court tomorrow, can I ask for a hair follicle test to be done on him? I am willing to pay for it. Can I get an attorney this late in the game, how can I do that if court is 8 in the morning and today is Sunday. I finally got my income tax check and can afford an attorney now. Please help. With him refusing to bring my son to see me last night, I'm afraid what he will do. I don't know what to do next.