hospitalization help please

[profmum]

Can't imagine how hard this must be for you.. as for Dad..how he survived natural selection is beyond me.. prayers for your brave little boy

[steveswifey]

aww. i'm so sad for your little one. hope he feels better soon.
it's reading about situations like this that make me glad my dad was a deadbeat and never came around to harrass my mom..
seems like the hospital staff is very understanding though.. i'm sure everything will be fine.. even if they have to show stepmom to the door..
something similar happened when my nephew was born..
her ex's wife was there and raising a fuss and yelling and turning what should have been a joyous occasion into pure hell.. fortunately security was there to show her out..
i'm sure they deal with this stuff more often than you realize..

[gr8rn]

Dawn, I am so sorry to hear of your son's transfer to the ICU. It is such a shame that the father chooses to act like an a$$.

This changes a lot, however, it is good for you and gives you more protection.

If things continue to escalate with the father and his wife, you may want to request security to be notifed to be watching for any shenanigans. If they are aware of a possible problem, the staff can request a guard to be stationed in the waiting room.

And about wifey poo and her disgusting text messages to you late in the night when you were so stressed out, she is just showing her true colors right there and they are not pretty. Yuck.

[DawnPlusTwo]

I finally have an update to report! Son woke up about 6:20 this evening! His breathing is still a little bit labored and he's wheezing a bit. He's definitely NOT his happy go lucky normal self, but he is smiling and fighting to get out of bed when he saw his big sissy! He tried to give her a kiss. Sweetest thing ever.

He was able to eat 2 little cups of Jello and a cup of applesauce. So no tube for feeding at this point!

They are going to give him something around 11 tonight to help him to get to sleep. Like someone said earlier, its easier to heal when you're asleep and not fighting the feeling of being miserable.

I did text dad to let him kno he finally woke up and got "K" in response. Blah. I don't care about his drama, I am just so thrilled the baby is coherent!

Thank you all so much, once again, for the thoughts and prayers for little man!

[wileybunch]

Originally Posted by ecmst12

Well it's good that he's sleeping, his body needs all his energy to heal itself. And he's less miserable when he's asleep. I know when I'M sick, all I want to do is sleep so I'm not aware of how crappy I feel

And my youngest 2 (twins) are never so easy to take care of as when they are sick with a fever. They sleep all day and don't eat, either.

OP, I hope your little guy's mending while he sleeps and can return home soon. I hope you are able to block the texts (didn't know you could), but you're completely ignoring them in the meantime, right? You should. Hang in there.

ETA: Just saw your update. Good to hear -- yay!
You are doing the right thing informing Dad (and ignoring wifey).

[kimberlywrites]

Originally Posted by DawnPlusTwo

My initial thought was to NOT let Dad know about the special rules for PICU. However the more I thought about it, the more I realized I would much rather that a showdown occur via text message then here in the waiting room or outside the PICU door. I should have known I'd be called a liar, and I'm sure he has already been on the phone with the staff here to see if the rules I stated were true.

Its fine, really. Assuming the situation is the same on Saturday morning (son still in PICU) and Dad comes in throwing his weight around and demanding that I leave, I will. Not the building, but I won't be on the same floor. It just sorta stinks for him because if he does that, he won't be able to see son at all. Without my bracelet, he's not getting in. Per the PICU rules. I hate for it to be that way, but its the truth.

Wife is sending more texts now. Guess she caught wind of the rules. She said since she is sons other Mom, she WILL get to go in or it won't be nice what the judge has to say. Lol. She texts like a lolcat so its rather difficult to decipher.
The PICU closes to any visitors between 11a and 1p so I will make my way to the cafeteria and put in a call to my cell company and see if I can get her number blocked.

As for little guy... He still isn't awake. He stirred a little bit about 45 mins ago but still hasn't fully woken up. The doctor was in around 830 and said he is going to talk to some colleagues about a more rapid treatment. His lungs look like he has been a smoker for 15 years right now.

Once again. I sincerly appreciate all of the well wishes and prayers.

She said WHAT??? Wow, okay, Dawn kudos to you for keeping a level head. I can't imagine the strain you are under. I am also thinking of you and your little man.
ETA: What an awesome update! Keep us posted!

[Ohiogal]

Originally Posted by kimberlywrites

She said WHAT??? Wow, okay, Dawn kudos to you for keeping a level head. I can't imagine the strain you are under. I am also thinking of you and your little man.
ETA: What an awesome update! Keep us posted!

Stepmom needs a slapdown big time. If she starts problems, she can be removed. You might want to talk to the nurses on the floor and ask that security be informed that stepmom likes to cause problems.

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Anyway of printing those lovely text messages from lovely? It would help in the future if you have to put an RO on her.

[LdiJ]

I was thinking about your son all night. I am so glad to hear that he is doing better.

[frylover]

I'm just so glad your little man is doing better!

[maryjo]

Originally Posted by DawnPlusTwo

Wife is sending more texts now. Guess she caught wind of the rules. She said since she is sons other Mom, she WILL get to go in or it won't be nice what the judge has to say. Lol. She texts like a lolcat so its rather difficult to decipher.

LOL! My ex's girlfriend texts like that too....and she is 50. Its so silly.

She also likes to occasionally text me things like because I wouldnt meet them to pick up kiddo when I wasnt court ordered to do so that THEY would take son away from me.

Please....try.

[DawnPlusTwo]

Last night went pretty smoothly in regards to the baby. He went to sleep about 1:25a. He is still bound to his bed right now because he still needs IV and he wants so dearly to rip that sucker out. He is sleeping so peacefully.

I'm booted out of the PICU again for the next 30ish minutes, so I had some nice hospital biscuits and gravy and bacon :-P

Dad never did text anything else back. But somewhere around 4:15 this morning, I started getting messages on Myspace. 2 from wife and 2 more from 2 of her friends. They were pictures of wife holding Son. And brief nasty messages to go along with.

SO easy for me to ignore her and all of her craziness. The pics were sent to hurt me. Which is somewhat a jab to the ribs to see someone else play mommy to your baby. But I have accepted (and am somewhat grateful) that she is son's primary caregiver on Dads time. If she wasn't there, no telling how long would sit in his own poop.

I'm pretty certain she can't have children of her own, I know they've been trying for the last 15 months. So she has to prove to Dad that she is a better mother to our son that I am. I let it drive me nuts for a while. But I am done with it. She makes a butt out of herself constantly. One of her messages last night said 'oh and good luck trying to pay your bills without our money!". Pretty sure I have been doing that ALL of my adult life.

Thanks Y'all so much for everything!

Oh and OG, the nurses and doctors who have been with us thus far know exactly what is going on. Its even noted in Sons chart because we will have a different set of nurses tomorrow. When PICU closes again around 11a, I may go down to the security station and see if they are aware of the potential problems.

[sometwo]

I definately would save those and I think its time for a court order barring her from 3rd party interference and having any contact with you whatsoever. This woman is psycho.

[Zephyr]

Originally Posted by sometwo

I definately would save those and I think its time for a court order barring her from 3rd party interference and having any contact with you whatsoever. This woman is psycho.

definitely print and save.....you will likely need them in the future

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by DawnPlusTwo

Last night went pretty smoothly in regards to the baby. He went to sleep about 1:25a. He is still bound to his bed right now because he still needs IV and he wants so dearly to rip that sucker out. He is sleeping so peacefully.

I'm booted out of the PICU again for the next 30ish minutes, so I had some nice hospital biscuits and gravy and bacon :-P

Dad never did text anything else back. But somewhere around 4:15 this morning, I started getting messages on Myspace. 2 from wife and 2 more from 2 of her friends. They were pictures of wife holding Son. And brief nasty messages to go along with.

SO easy for me to ignore her and all of her craziness. The pics were sent to hurt me. Which is somewhat a jab to the ribs to see someone else play mommy to your baby. But I have accepted (and am somewhat grateful) that she is son's primary caregiver on Dads time. If she wasn't there, no telling how long would sit in his own poop.

I'm pretty certain she can't have children of her own, I know they've been trying for the last 15 months. So she has to prove to Dad that she is a better mother to our son that I am. I let it drive me nuts for a while. But I am done with it. She makes a butt out of herself constantly. One of her messages last night said 'oh and good luck trying to pay your bills without our money!". Pretty sure I have been doing that ALL of my adult life.

Thanks Y'all so much for everything!

Oh and OG, the nurses and doctors who have been with us thus far know exactly what is going on. Its even noted in Sons chart because we will have a different set of nurses tomorrow. When PICU closes again around 11a, I may go down to the security station and see if they are aware of the potential problems.

Is this woman 12 years old or what? My 22 year old daughter would not behave in such a ridiculous manner. If she was told she couldn't visit a child in the PICU she would be disappointed, but she wouldn't act like it was the fault of anyone other than the rules. She wasn't allowed to visit her premature brother in the NICU when she was 12, and she was disappointed, but she didn't act the fool.

What is it with these women who act like this? Everything has to be "drama".