hospitalization help please

[liandrajade]

YAY!!! so happy to hear the little one is getting better little by little, my daughter kicked out the IV in her leg and they had to redo it, sucked so much when they had to put it back in. I know it's hard, I have a similar situation with a crazy lady trying to be my child's "mommy"...her own freaking grandma! Keep your head up, worry about your son and you know where everyone else can go to....

[IsabellaSoriano]

phew!!! i am so glad baby is doing better!!

we've been all sick in this house with some sort of stomache bug. good thing it only lasted 24 hours.

[maryjo]

Originally Posted by DawnPlusTwo

Dad never did text anything else back. But somewhere around 4:15 this morning, I started getting messages on Myspace. 2 from wife and 2 more from 2 of her friends. They were pictures of wife holding Son. And brief nasty messages to go along with.

SO easy for me to ignore her and all of her craziness. The pics were sent to hurt me. Which is somewhat a jab to the ribs to see someone else play mommy to your baby. But I have accepted (and am somewhat grateful) that she is son's primary caregiver on Dads time. If she wasn't there, no telling how long would sit in his own poop.

If it was me I would save the pictures to my computer and edit them. Cut her out of them and make the picture of your baby your profile picture. OR..after you edit her out of them post them to your Myspace page with a comment about how nice someone was to send you these wonderful pictures of your baby while on a visit with dad.

[Rushia]

Originally Posted by maryjo

If it was me I would save the pictures to my computer and edit them. Cut her out of them and make the picture of your baby your profile picture. OR..after you edit her out of them post them to your Myspace page with a comment about how nice someone was to send you these wonderful pictures of your baby while on a visit with dad.

That would just add fuel to the fire. Her best bet is to ignore them. The purpose was to hurt Dawn and your suggestion would just give stepmonster and her cronies satisfaction that they got to Dawn.

[gr8rn]

Dawn, so glad your little guy is feeling better.

I am really starting to hate your exes wife.

Keep your chin up and continue to take the high road and don't be sucked into the vortex. They are both not worth it.

I hope that tomorrow works out well.

[IsabellaSoriano]

Originally Posted by maryjo

If it was me I would save the pictures to my computer and edit them. Cut her out of them and make the picture of your baby your profile picture. OR..after you edit her out of them post them to your Myspace page with a comment about how nice someone was to send you these wonderful pictures of your baby while on a visit with dad.

tha woman with an attitude in me, says YEAH!! that'll really get her goat.


but like Rushia said, it doesn't help the situation.

[Rushia]

Originally Posted by IsabellaSoriano

tha woman with an attitude in me, says YEAH!! that'll really get her goat.


but like Rushia said, it doesn't help the situation.

Personally, if I was gonna do anything it would have been "Thank you for the lovely pics! Junior looks as if he's having a great time!" Really takes the wind out of the sails when you either thank them or ignore them.

[Hisbabygirl77]

Originally Posted by Rushia

Personally, if I was gonna do anything it would have been "Thank you for the lovely pics! Junior looks as if he's having a great time!" Really takes the wind out of the sails when you either thank them or ignore them.

On my facebook I have pics of family and friends. Well my best friend is an ex boyfriend. My husbands ex posted a comment by both my ex bf's pic and my sons pic that stated this " well my my doesnt your lil boy look exactly like your ex boyfriend. Has MY sons father realized this yet?" I showed my husband the comment and he just grinned and said well hun you do tend to date men that look alike do you think she realized that me and your ex look a lot alike as well?

It took all of my willpower not to message back "wow I didnt know you had been with my ex boyfriend too" since my son and her son look so much alike

[JKBee]

Prayers for your son's recovery.

Kudos to you for your maturity! Not the time to get into it with stepmother and dad. You know that what is important is your son. The hospital security will deal with any extraneous problems, you deal with your son and his emotional stability, while the hospital deals with his health. Teamwork!

It is a shame that the dad is like this. But the good thing is that texting leaves a "paper trail." Great to save for future times if needed to show a judge how much father really was concerned with son. That he won't come to visit until Saturday shows how little he is concerned with son's well-being.

It is a sad state that everyone on here is more concerned with your son's health and well-being than the actual father!

[wileybunch]

Originally Posted by LdiJ

Is this woman 12 years old or what? My 22 year old daughter would not behave in such a ridiculous manner. If she was told she couldn't visit a child in the PICU she would be disappointed, but she wouldn't act like it was the fault of anyone other than the rules. She wasn't allowed to visit her premature brother in the NICU when she was 12, and she was disappointed, but she didn't act the fool.

What is it with these women who act like this? Everything has to be "drama".

I agree, it's extremely immature and drama filled. OP, how is it she's posting messages on your MySpace page? Or is she sending you emails through MySpace? Isn't it easy to block people? I'm not understanding how she's accessing your page in the first place .....

[maryjo]

Originally Posted by Rushia

That would just add fuel to the fire. Her best bet is to ignore them. The purpose was to hurt Dawn and your suggestion would just give stepmonster and her cronies satisfaction that they got to Dawn.

No, I dont think so. She sent them to get a rise out of her. To piss her off and hurt her. So for her to turn the situation around and use the pictures herself, without acknowledging this woman at all, and turn the negative situation into a positive for herself, would show this evil woman that she isnt going to get to her and that her plan backfired.

It isnt about being mean. Its about taking the good out of the bad. Besides that, MySpace is just so stupid. Yeah, I have one but I rarely even check it. I have Facebook but it is ONLY for friends and family. But it just seems that people will post the meanest, stupidest stuff on those sites. Its like the filter is gone once they log in.

[should_I_ask]

Its Saturday and I was hoping to hear that your son had made a miraculous recovery.... at least enough to be brought out of ICU....hopefully you're just too busy giving him kisses to post anything right now.

My ex did the very same thing with the diapers "Diapers are a Mommy thing" ya, how about diapers are a PARENTAL thing?? Jeez. Grow up, seriously. Has Mr. Wonderful ever dealt with diaper rash from sitting in fecal matter? Must not have since he lets him sit. EW. Seriously, EW. Its so much easier to change early on!

From a hospital employee (I'm not), you would think that they wouldn't want ANYONE who hasn't already been exposed to visit? Maybe things have changed since the last time I was in the ICU (my Mr. Wonderful #1(only ex hubby) was a ICU nurse, his DD was in the ICU following rods being placed in her VERY crooked back).

I pray for your sons quick recovery... and your sanity. Just remember to breathe.

[Gum_Drop]

in regards to poopie diapers, back in 96 when our son was around 10 mths old, my ex, who didnt do poopie diapers either, he brought my son to my moms house to for her to change the diaper, She wasnt home either, so my ex and my step dad thought it would be a good idea to take the child outside and Hose him down. Glad it was summer time.

Hope you son is doing much better today

[DawnPlusTwo]

Hey yall.

Its about 11am and still no sign of Dad or any of the Looney Tunes characters. His visit normally begins at 8. The nurses have been on high alert. Every 10 minutes one of them is walking up asking if he has showed yet. I talked to security again this AM and the ones who are on shift today are aware of the possible issues.

Yesterday was a pretty busy day. Sons IV was taped off and he was allowed out of bed and he was able to walk around a little bit. He was so happy to be up moving around. So was I!! And the best part was I actually got to hold him, which I haven't been able to do since Wednesday night. He is still in the PICU until at least tomorrow morning.

I've done my best to keep Dad informed of all changes but he makes it extremely difficult! This was our text conversation yesterday.

Me: Hey, just wanted to let ya know that J is up and moving around today. He's alert and happy.

Dad: K.

Me: since he's awake, I'm sure he would love to see ya.

Dad: HE wuld luv 2 c me or YOU wuld?

I ignored that and he never sent anything else.
About an hour after that, wife CALLED my phone. I ignored the call and the voicemail she left was:

"I just wanted to let YOU know that MY hubby and me will be there to see our baby tomorrow. Don't even try to stop us."

She's such a classy gal. In the past when she has started this crap, I've asked Dad to make it stop. He said our problems are between us and we need to fight it out. Uh no. I didn't have a baby with her. I don't need to have anything to do with her. I'm not 14. I don't do cat fights, which is what he wants.

Anyway... Wiley, regarding the Myspace messages, they were emails through myspace. My profile is completely private but anyone still has the option of sending a message. She has sent me friend requests about 25 times in the last year or so. Denied by me every single time. Her friends also make a habit of sending requests. The only people on my friends is people I know personally. And the only reason I still have a myspace is for the ease of my dad and other family in California to see pictures of the kiddos.

So a quick question, if dad tries to say that I've denied his visit today, what do I need to protect myself? I have two nurses statements saying that he was NOT here. They can be subpoenaed if need be to provide testimony. I have a copy of the hospital rules regarding all visitors as well as the specific PICU rules for visitors. I'm going to talk to security to see if they will provide statement that he wasn't here.
Anything else you all can think of?

Once again, thanks so much for well wishes! Little dude is feeling better. His sleep schedule is so jacked up though. He sleeps til noon or after now =)

[Ohiogal]

You need to get a restraining order against looney toons. Save her voice mail message. Save her texts. And get a restraining order against looney toons.