What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? New York
Hello I am having am issue with my child's mother regarding amending the visitation schedule we have in place by the court.
I find myself in a battle to see my son for every birthday party or gathering she wants to go to.
My work schedule alternates and she has it ahead of time. If it is a major family event or someone he lives with I have no problem working with her but I find myself battling for time competing with every party she gets invited to.
She does offer alternate times but they are times that are convenient for her and that I feel like he should be sleeping like extending my 7pm drop off until 10pm. The child is 4 I feel like he should have been sleeping way before 10pm so why would I keep him until then. That is not a normal healthy bed time for a child so young.
This is what our order states:
"Ordered that on consent and after allocution a final order of joint custody of the subject child is hereby granted to the parties. mother shall have physical custody of the subject child. The mother and father shall share joint legal custody. Father shall have visitation with the child on the days that he is not working. Should these days fall on a school day, the visitation shall be after school until 7pm. Should the days off fall on the weekend visitation shall be from 9am to 5pm. pickup and drop off shall be at the home of the mother. parties will arrange for holiday visitation between themselves; and it is further ordered that parties may modify this order on consent in writing."
She takes the last part as, as long as she lets me know ahead of time I can't see him. I can't do anything about it even if I disagree and would like to see my son.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?