motherof224
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? West Virginia
My current in effect temporary court order states that the NCP has the right to contact the children during reasonable hours to keep up the bond between parent and child.
This does not state phone, email, text, etc, what form of communication, nor does it states that I have to be a part of this conversation. Up to this point, he has made comments to such as "this is a waste of time" and hung up once I just put my daughter on the phone and I say "here are the girls". I was advised by my lawyer because of his past emotionally abusive and excessive behavior calling and texting to not communicate with him myself via telephone, all a jab at me but indirectly mentioning the children so to have to contact me in the first place.
He now has changed his phone number and will not provide any contact number to me, however he will call me restricted. I know the restricted calls are him cause that cell phone is used for only limited purposes and no personal communication on my part plus he will leave voicemails from the calls. My question is, should I answer these calls or not? In one way, I cannot be assured that it is him in fact the one calling, so I don't like the idea of handing any random phone call to my three year old. In another way, I feel he should provide me a recognizable number so that I know it is their father and hand my daughters the phone directly. I just need to know how to handle the restricted phone calls.
Also if your advice is to start answering the restricted phone calls, what should I do in the case he is excessively calling? I know once I do answer, from past history, he will then start to escalate to more and more calling. communication, etc.
My children are twenty months and three. There is much information I am not putting here, I don't always know what is most useful or helpful to you to advice me, so please ask for any additional information and I will be happy to supply.
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Also the father does only currently have supervised visits that are to be arranged between both parties weekly, for no less than 2 hours. The supervising party is to be me, which is a whole other issue because of the emotional and verbal abuse but I will not go there. I appreciate any and all help.
My current in effect temporary court order states that the NCP has the right to contact the children during reasonable hours to keep up the bond between parent and child.
This does not state phone, email, text, etc, what form of communication, nor does it states that I have to be a part of this conversation. Up to this point, he has made comments to such as "this is a waste of time" and hung up once I just put my daughter on the phone and I say "here are the girls". I was advised by my lawyer because of his past emotionally abusive and excessive behavior calling and texting to not communicate with him myself via telephone, all a jab at me but indirectly mentioning the children so to have to contact me in the first place.
He now has changed his phone number and will not provide any contact number to me, however he will call me restricted. I know the restricted calls are him cause that cell phone is used for only limited purposes and no personal communication on my part plus he will leave voicemails from the calls. My question is, should I answer these calls or not? In one way, I cannot be assured that it is him in fact the one calling, so I don't like the idea of handing any random phone call to my three year old. In another way, I feel he should provide me a recognizable number so that I know it is their father and hand my daughters the phone directly. I just need to know how to handle the restricted phone calls.
Also if your advice is to start answering the restricted phone calls, what should I do in the case he is excessively calling? I know once I do answer, from past history, he will then start to escalate to more and more calling. communication, etc.
My children are twenty months and three. There is much information I am not putting here, I don't always know what is most useful or helpful to you to advice me, so please ask for any additional information and I will be happy to supply.
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Also the father does only currently have supervised visits that are to be arranged between both parties weekly, for no less than 2 hours. The supervising party is to be me, which is a whole other issue because of the emotional and verbal abuse but I will not go there. I appreciate any and all help.