What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? North Carolina
I have a 5 year old daughter. Her mother recently admitted herself into the hospital into the Life Works center for psychiatric evaluation, after attacking me then coming at me with a kitchen knife. Her father was there for the incident and persuaded her to see some specialists to find out what causes her to loose touch with reality in situations like this. She was diagnosed with BPD and has been undergoing a lot of therapy and several different medications.
In the past I noticed it seemed as though I was dealing with several different personalities. One who was extra caring and sweet, one who was manipulative and would do or say anything to gather the sympathy from others, and another who was on a complete path of destruction and entirely disconnected. She had a history of substance abuse when I first met her. But after meeting me and spending alot of time together she claimed to have stopped. Later after becoming pregnant I soon realized it had never stopped at all. A good friend of mine informed me that she and some friends would get together at our place and were snorting cocaine while I was away at work, and the baby was in the apartment. When I talked to her about it she admitted to it and claimed that she was sorry and it wouldnt happen again.
I should have acted then, against my better judgement I trusted her.
She goes through phases of being at home and spending her time with her family, then for months would dissapear on a regular basis and every time I turned around there was a new "sketchy" friend in the picture, one of which dissapeared herself and was on a heroin binge. When I would talk to her about my concerns for her being around people like this, or lying and dissapearing, she would only get angry and often attack me or throw a tantrum. During these tantrums she disconnects completely and runs through the house like and animal breaking/throwing anything in her path, usually ends them in crying on the floor, or storming out the door and staying gone for the rest of the day or night.
After she got out of the hospital, I did not feel like it was safe for her to be in the home with me and our daughter. Her parents agreed and she has been staying with her mother over the past 3 months and our daughter has been living with me. I allow our daughter to go to her grandmothers, to see her mother on the weekends. Her mother suprivises these visits and claims to not let them leave her sight. I am concerned that if I do not get our agreement on paper that she may, during one of her episodes get the idea to hide with our child...AGAIN. Two years ago she dissapeared for 3 months, having no contact with me or anyone in her family until one day she calls me crying asking can she come home. I dont know where to turn, I cannot afford to pay a lawyer and I don't want to get DSS involved unless I absolutely have to. At this point the agreement we have is consensual. But I am also concerned that if I take her to court she will manipulate the judges into believing her typical "victim" story. I dont want her to get in trouble, I just want my daughter to have a stable environment to grow in, as well as go to school.
I apologize if my post is hard to understand. I wanted to get it all out there, and there are so many details that may cause it to seem a bit scattered.
I have a 5 year old daughter. Her mother recently admitted herself into the hospital into the Life Works center for psychiatric evaluation, after attacking me then coming at me with a kitchen knife. Her father was there for the incident and persuaded her to see some specialists to find out what causes her to loose touch with reality in situations like this. She was diagnosed with BPD and has been undergoing a lot of therapy and several different medications.
In the past I noticed it seemed as though I was dealing with several different personalities. One who was extra caring and sweet, one who was manipulative and would do or say anything to gather the sympathy from others, and another who was on a complete path of destruction and entirely disconnected. She had a history of substance abuse when I first met her. But after meeting me and spending alot of time together she claimed to have stopped. Later after becoming pregnant I soon realized it had never stopped at all. A good friend of mine informed me that she and some friends would get together at our place and were snorting cocaine while I was away at work, and the baby was in the apartment. When I talked to her about it she admitted to it and claimed that she was sorry and it wouldnt happen again.
I should have acted then, against my better judgement I trusted her.
She goes through phases of being at home and spending her time with her family, then for months would dissapear on a regular basis and every time I turned around there was a new "sketchy" friend in the picture, one of which dissapeared herself and was on a heroin binge. When I would talk to her about my concerns for her being around people like this, or lying and dissapearing, she would only get angry and often attack me or throw a tantrum. During these tantrums she disconnects completely and runs through the house like and animal breaking/throwing anything in her path, usually ends them in crying on the floor, or storming out the door and staying gone for the rest of the day or night.
After she got out of the hospital, I did not feel like it was safe for her to be in the home with me and our daughter. Her parents agreed and she has been staying with her mother over the past 3 months and our daughter has been living with me. I allow our daughter to go to her grandmothers, to see her mother on the weekends. Her mother suprivises these visits and claims to not let them leave her sight. I am concerned that if I do not get our agreement on paper that she may, during one of her episodes get the idea to hide with our child...AGAIN. Two years ago she dissapeared for 3 months, having no contact with me or anyone in her family until one day she calls me crying asking can she come home. I dont know where to turn, I cannot afford to pay a lawyer and I don't want to get DSS involved unless I absolutely have to. At this point the agreement we have is consensual. But I am also concerned that if I take her to court she will manipulate the judges into believing her typical "victim" story. I dont want her to get in trouble, I just want my daughter to have a stable environment to grow in, as well as go to school.
I apologize if my post is hard to understand. I wanted to get it all out there, and there are so many details that may cause it to seem a bit scattered.
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