What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NC
For back ground here is the link to the post this goes with, I can't find how to unlock it so I'm sorry for the new post.
https://forum.freeadvice.com/child-custody-visitation-37/i-hate-but-im-back-new-question-585304.html
Here is my question;
So the update is, Dad completed a phasing in for Little One(that the judge set himself based a good bit off what I had offered Dad) and things have gone fairly well. I do need to ask a few more questions...
1. Dad moved 3 hours away, judge set a meeting place where I only have to drive 50 minutes. Dad wants me to drive an hour and half down a highway that is known for a lot of accidents and has been under construction for 3 years. Dad has girlfriend completely involved in the transportation and she doesn't like the direction she currently has to go. (Don't get me wrong, she's ok, I like her and Little One loves her and she's much better to deal with) So I am considering a different meeting point that keeps her and I off the worst highways and I don't drive any further then I already am. Is that a fair idea?
2. The reason I won't agree to driving further is Dad's history of disappearing and I do have another child, so what can I ask for and more than likely have included in the modification that will take account of that? I don't like the idea of him disappearing a 3rd time and each time I drive little one to the meeting spot, he gets disappointed. Something to the effect of if he misses so many visits then I no longer have to drive there unless.... I can't think of the perfect wording for it.
3. If he disappears again would it be suitable to have a "phasing" or consequences already added to the order so we don't get where we are ever again, attorney's fees are eating me up, even though I do a lot of my own leg work.
4. I know we talk about over stepping step parents, but honestly if they get married, she is a lot easier to deal with, would I be setting myself up for a headache if I allow her to be the main one I deal with. He is worse in person than on OFW, he physically will try to intimidate me and anyone with me. She's all for little one and doesn't seem to care about his hatred towards me
For back ground here is the link to the post this goes with, I can't find how to unlock it so I'm sorry for the new post.
https://forum.freeadvice.com/child-custody-visitation-37/i-hate-but-im-back-new-question-585304.html
Here is my question;
So the update is, Dad completed a phasing in for Little One(that the judge set himself based a good bit off what I had offered Dad) and things have gone fairly well. I do need to ask a few more questions...
1. Dad moved 3 hours away, judge set a meeting place where I only have to drive 50 minutes. Dad wants me to drive an hour and half down a highway that is known for a lot of accidents and has been under construction for 3 years. Dad has girlfriend completely involved in the transportation and she doesn't like the direction she currently has to go. (Don't get me wrong, she's ok, I like her and Little One loves her and she's much better to deal with) So I am considering a different meeting point that keeps her and I off the worst highways and I don't drive any further then I already am. Is that a fair idea?
2. The reason I won't agree to driving further is Dad's history of disappearing and I do have another child, so what can I ask for and more than likely have included in the modification that will take account of that? I don't like the idea of him disappearing a 3rd time and each time I drive little one to the meeting spot, he gets disappointed. Something to the effect of if he misses so many visits then I no longer have to drive there unless.... I can't think of the perfect wording for it.
3. If he disappears again would it be suitable to have a "phasing" or consequences already added to the order so we don't get where we are ever again, attorney's fees are eating me up, even though I do a lot of my own leg work.
4. I know we talk about over stepping step parents, but honestly if they get married, she is a lot easier to deal with, would I be setting myself up for a headache if I allow her to be the main one I deal with. He is worse in person than on OFW, he physically will try to intimidate me and anyone with me. She's all for little one and doesn't seem to care about his hatred towards me