I understand what you are saying but you are the one not getting what we are trying to say.
It has to specifically say that it has been ORDERED! I don't care what it says anywhere else on that paper if it is not on the final judgment where it says "It is therefore ordered etc." and signed by a judge it does not mean a thing. I don't know what it says but I know for a fact that if it is not done in the right format and under the part where it says it is ordered and signed by a judge, then you don't have custody. I'm not saying you don't but we don't have x-ray vision to read it and see if it was done correctly or not.
The lawyer who explained it to you without seeing it should never have done that. How can he explain something he hasn't seen with his own eyes? He could make a mistake and tell you wrong.
I mean, you may have custody, I don't know.
If this was an uncontested divorce, which is what it sounds like, didn't he wave his rights to go to court?
I know what you are saying about signing away his rights but I am telling you right now you don't need to go around saying he did because he did not sign away his rights. Signing away your rights means he doesn't have the right to visitation, custody, to see school records, medical records and it means that he wouldn't have to pay child support. It means it would be like he was never their father. If you go in court or talk to an attorney this way, that is what they are going to think you are talking about. You are talking out of context and you don't have a clue how important it is to know what you are talking about but I have been trying to explain it to you.
He does have rights, he can see the child's records, visit with her, pursue custody and yes he can file them on taxes if the she stays with him a certain amount of time during the year or he can show he has paid for more then half of the things she needs. I don't need to know any info on this and what's going on, I'm just telling you what he can do and for you to not speak out of context because it is very important. I was trying to help you.
And as far as why the papers would be drawn up if they didn't mean anything is because of a situation like this...
My husband's ex had someone draw up their divorce papers. Under "Findings of Fact" it states the children are to reside with her, that's it. One would assume that means custody right? Wrong. It didn't specify what type of custody and it was not put under the part where it says "It is therefore ordered..." on the final judgment which is the part that is a court order by a judge. So guess what? All this time she thought she had sole custody and she doesn't have squat. No one has legal custody of the children. So why were these papers drawn up if they don't mean anything? Because they were done incorrcectly that's why.
I just wanted to make sure you weren't in the same situation.
If you take the child out of state, he can contest it and make you bring her back more then likely if you don't come to a legal agreement now.
Ok, I am done. Good Luck.