What is the name of your state? TX
My story is long and there's alot going on, so I wont be able to say everything but I'll try to stick to the facts and impotant things.
My daughter, who is 3 is in the middle of a "battle" between her father and I. I'm not trying to encourage this battle or make it worse by any means, but I'm also not going to site by and allow him to continue what hes doing. These are recent events that are harming our daughter right now.
1) He's called CPS on me twice in the past year for fradulant cases. I know that its hard to prove they are fraudulant, but both cases are closed and CPS told me they will most likely ignore furture calls from him. He's also accused a friend of mine of sexually abusing her, when my friend has never been alone with her.
2) I've taken her to her Dr to talk to him about whats the best action we can take since I feel all the negative things that are going on (with the recent abuse charges and other things). I told her father how I was taking her to the Dr and why (the last CPS call was for sexual abuse, in which they concluded HE coached her). He threw a fit and accused me of being the one of harming her and exposing her to horrible things. The Dr recommended me taking her to a pychologist
3) I took her the the pcyhologist and told her father, in which he again called me up, after I told him unless it effects our daughters immediate heath and well being we need to communicate through email/mail or text since our communication problems. He accused, me of being the one harming her again, of exposing her to bad things; in which I told him 2things our daughter has told me happened at his house that was inappropriate a)kissing me on the mouth the way adults to, she told me "daddys friend kisses his gf like that b) how M (step mom) and her dad watched a movie where the people kissed and took their clothes off(which they called CPS on me when I watched a similar movie, I shut mine off cause I didn't want out daughter to see it) He accused me of lying and making it up. He then sent me a nasty email, telling me how hes going to call the therapist to make sure she has the correct information since I'm lying.
I'm concerned because when our daughter goes to her dads she comes home in a very negative mood and is very sad. Yesterday when she came home she was saying how daddy said she had to get her hair done, and how she hates her natural hair. The time before that, it was her shoes were "too big" even though he bought her bigger ones 6 months before. He's constantly making her feel bad about herself and I know he tells her bad things, though I of course he tells me he doesn't. I'm also concerned because she's so young and impressionable that I don't want her to feel that any of these things he tells her are real.
I know talking mean about the other parent is prohibited, but her father is very controlling and I think because I refuse to allow him to control me he has decided to hurt me through her.
I feel the best thing to do is to go after full custody of our daughter and allow him supervised visits after we both go through parenting classes (I am signing up for them in May) I can't afford a lawyer right now, I'm going to try to get legal aid. Is there any way I can get an immediate protection order or anything in place. I know he's not physically harming her, but I know hes emotionally harming her and that this damage can effect her for years if its not stopped now. Shes a wonderful sweet girl, and I don't want to deprive her of her father BUT on the other hand if he's going to be so selfish and not see that this is harming her then something needs to happen.