What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Louisiana
Hello,
My husband and I are discussing the custody and visitation of our child after divorce. He agreed to give me the 'physical' custody but wants joint 'legal' custody. This, he says, means:
"I (=the noncustodial parent) have a decisive power over which school [the child] has to go, what kind of healthcare she should get, etc. In order to make a good judgement, I need to know details:
1) what do they do at school;
2) who does she play with;
3) who are her friends;
4) what happend during the last days;
5) what was for breakfast;
6) what was the teacher saying;
etc. "
He also says, "Same holds for yourself (=the custodial parent). What are you working on? Are you healthy? When is your work contract expiring? Did you find your next job? Are you planning to go to a conference? Where did you go on weekends? All this is relevant to our good relationships."
The problem is, I don't like to talk all that with him after the divorce. After all, I don't like to talk with him, and that's why I'm divorcing. My question is: Do I really have to report all those information he believes he needs to know in order to fulfill his share on 'legal' custody? During the separation, I've been the sole caregiver of our child, and I'm not asking for any alimony or child support (=money) after the divorce. I don't want to have anything to do with my husband after the divorce to be honest, but I have to be in contact with him since I respect our child's right to meet her father even after the divorce. The visitations I'm allowing my husband is solely for our child and not for him, but it seems that he's taking advantage of it to monitor/control me. What do you think?
Hello,
My husband and I are discussing the custody and visitation of our child after divorce. He agreed to give me the 'physical' custody but wants joint 'legal' custody. This, he says, means:
"I (=the noncustodial parent) have a decisive power over which school [the child] has to go, what kind of healthcare she should get, etc. In order to make a good judgement, I need to know details:
1) what do they do at school;
2) who does she play with;
3) who are her friends;
4) what happend during the last days;
5) what was for breakfast;
6) what was the teacher saying;
etc. "
He also says, "Same holds for yourself (=the custodial parent). What are you working on? Are you healthy? When is your work contract expiring? Did you find your next job? Are you planning to go to a conference? Where did you go on weekends? All this is relevant to our good relationships."
The problem is, I don't like to talk all that with him after the divorce. After all, I don't like to talk with him, and that's why I'm divorcing. My question is: Do I really have to report all those information he believes he needs to know in order to fulfill his share on 'legal' custody? During the separation, I've been the sole caregiver of our child, and I'm not asking for any alimony or child support (=money) after the divorce. I don't want to have anything to do with my husband after the divorce to be honest, but I have to be in contact with him since I respect our child's right to meet her father even after the divorce. The visitations I'm allowing my husband is solely for our child and not for him, but it seems that he's taking advantage of it to monitor/control me. What do you think?