I married my wife 10 years ago when she got pregnant, after dating for 3 years. I love my wife and we have had a wonderful marriage but now I find out that my son, now about to turn 10, is not my own. (I have another son, age 8, and I'm sure he is mine but I haven't done a test)
I have a lot of questions and concerns about this. I feel like my son deserves to know but I'm scared of the consequences.
Will we need to seek out his real father?
What are the father's rights?
Could his real dad take my son away from me?
What will my son feel knowing that I am not his real dad?
If I don't tell my son, he might still find out some day and I can't imagine how upset he would be then for us not telling him.
What about health/genetic issues - I feel like we should know?
Less important to me but still an issue: I'm also now conflicted about my wife. I feel betrayed in the absolute worst way.
What are my rights?
If I was to file for divorce, would I lose custody of my son because he is not mine?
Will I have an ability to get full custody of my younger son?
I could not stand to live without either one of them and it doesn't seem fair that I should I suffer due to something my wife has caused. My wife is a good mom and I don't want to take my kids away from her either; is the only real option joint custody?
As you can imagine, this is very stressful and I would really appreciate honest and real answers. I don't want to hear how bad my wife is, I want to know my options, I want to hear opinions on the best way to handle my son. Thank you.