tigger22472
Senior Member
I don't have a question to post but wanted to tell a bit of a story hoping that people in custody battles at the moment listen and see what they actually do to children. My SO's ex wife has a son that she's in a battle for custody of. She's all but won, just waiting on the confirmation(long story). This has gone on for over two years already. Neither of the parents can get along and have had restraining orders on each other off and on. At the current time the father and step-father have orders against each other. The poor little boy is 9. He obviously loves both his parents but has been thrown in the middle of this because he has to hear both his parents talk about the other. Last night I decided to have a New Years Eve party for kids. I also thought it would be a good thing for the boy was to go to his dad's today and figured that the parents wouldn't have to deal with each other and he could just be picked up at my house. At the current time their visitation schedule is two weeks at mom's and two weeks at dad's with switch off day being Wednesday and every other holiday spent with the parents. Tomorrow is the day in which he would be going back to his fathers house. The dad has stalked the mom, done damage to her cars and just simply harrassed her in general. However, although he's a perfect dad and has many many faults, he loves his son and takes basically good care of him. This morning I had the boy call his dad to let him know he was up and to see if he wanted me to feed him breakfast or not. I could hear him through the phone telling his son how he was NOT taking him back to his mom's tonight so he could simply sleep so he could pick him up again in the morning. Mom had already told me she was going to make him do this for she says every time she gives him "extra time" he never returns him on time and doesn't allow her the extra time when he's at his dad's house. I told her myself that I thought it was kind of silly since her and her ex don't get along that if she just let her son stay there then she wouldn't have to deal with him but she refused. My bf sat down with the boy before his dad got him and asked him if he was ok... he also let him know that he and I were here for him anytime he wanted and the poor little boy started crying. This is not the first time that my bf and I have sat down with him. He has been pushed and pulled into the middle of this and doesn't understand any of it. I know I've babbled but it just breaks my heart to see this happen to him. I am a CP who's ex doesn't have anything to do with his children I have seen what it does to children. I realize mom is trying to make it where the dad doesn't take advantage of her yet she's not realizing what it's doing to her son.