kids in a tattoo parlor?

[TiTi]

For Guy....

Opinion time... you cannot share your business and expect people to listen and devote some attention to your situation and not take the response you get...

and I take it...
when it is an opinion and not played off like some joke.

Like I said... if the post wants to continue as a fest for artistic disputes that is fine. its not really what I was looking for... but you get what you get. I actually got a kick out of your response and here I reply...

I have done reseach on the net like a semi-intelligent person. And my research led me here. lucky me lucky me.

I have discussed why I do care for them to be there..
I thought I mentioned that in my post...

I do not shelter my children... please do not assume things for which you do not know.

Just because I have a few more minutes...I will defend myself just a tad bit further to say... I have a very open relationship with my kids and if they have a question I answer it honestly. If they are concerned about something we talk about it.
Sheltering them is all in the eye of the beholder. What one parent allows their children to see or do or have can be totally different to what another will do. And with that education comes in to effect. If you EDUCATE them... it will most likely produce actions and reactions that are in their (children) favors.

My concern is my children. I am NOT June Cleaver, I do not live in lala land, I am not naive to what children see or do these days. I was not handed the book on how to raise your kid right, I do what I do because it is all I know and I just want what is best for them within my power.


Anyway... thanks for the "help"..... Have a good night

 

[FJ1200guy]

Hi, Titi.

I am sorry we didn't take your post more serious.

So I'm sure your research turned up that there is no law against taking a minor into a tattoo parlor, right? So why the post?

The problem is the Tattoo industry is booming faster then our communities can make rules and regs for them... I think this is a good opportunity for you to champion a cause! To be honest, I'd have to side with you, when it gets right down to it.... if not FOR an age limit, then definately for some sort of obsenity regulation for what younger kids would see on the wall in the waiting room. Heck, even Cosmopolitan has to be covered at the supermarket, right?

And I was not judging you at all... I was just commenting on what you wrote: "Kids today are exposed to WAY to much and have access to way to many things they should not. I will do everything I can to control what my children are exposed to because I am a parent and I care about my children and their upbringing."
I was just offering an observation... and since you say you DO educate them, ect... why the problem with them going into a tattoo parlor?

Rhetorical questions.

I didn't mean to fire you up, for that I apologize. Lyle

 

[stealth2]

The problem is, TiTi - while you think you have the right to control where your kids are taken while with your ex, you really don't until a court says you do. Courts give parents a lot of leeway in how they raise their kids, and will generally not interfere with the decisions a parent makes (on their time) - unless there is a clear and proven danger to the child. You may not like the environment of a tattoo parlor and may feel it's an inappropriate one for your children to be exposed to - your ex may not. And it is very unlikely that a judge will order him not to do so. There's no law against it, and you may find that the more of a fuss you raise, the more he takes the kids there just to get a rise out of you. Some things you simply have no control over, and you'll find that life is much more pleasant when you stop trying.

 

[texasmomlost]

I thnk the real problem is people taking
someone with the name "TiTi" seriously.

There is a line drawn between allowing your children see you get plastered or buy porn, than getting a tattoo!

I can understand if some man wanted his genitals pierced or tattoo'd or a woman, and you do not want your kids to see that.

But first you say you want legal backing and now you want moral backing as well.


Tough stuff toots, if you have a complaint call the local health department or Social Services and ask them.

 

[stealth2]

There is a line drawn between allowing your children see you get plastered or buy porn, than getting a tattoo!

There's also a line between being in a bar and getting plastered. I take my kids to a local bar now and again - because they have the best ribeye around. We go for dinner. Early enough so that the "bar" scene hasn't really started. But it's a bar, no way 'round it.

 

[texasmomlost]

There's also a line between being in a bar and getting plastered. I take my kids to a local bar now and again - because they have the best ribeye around. We go for dinner. Early enough so that the "bar" scene hasn't really started. But it's a bar, no way 'round it.

Yes, you go when they are allowed in. I thought there was a time that minors were not allowed to be in a bar. That was sort of what I was saying, I think. Lmao

I have one in particular we used to go to, it was very family oriented before the bar scene started, as you said.

I know about those damn good bar steaks! For some reason that seems to be the place to get the best steak!LOL

 

[stealth2]

hehe we call it "the dive". My folks & I went on our own to check it out, and when I mentioned that to the kids as we were driving by there was a shocked silence and one of the whispered "but.... it's a *bar*." And yeah, if you're there of a Friday evening - it's not the best place for kids. But 6pm on a Tuesday? Why not. Damn good steaks!

(hehehe tho the kids really like when we go with a group and get a beer tower )

 

[nextwife]

In my area, the "Friday Night Fish Fry" is a family tradition. The neighborhood pubs and restaurants all have a Friday Fish Fry (or bake) and families go out together for a moderately priced, casual dinner. And, yes, it's in the local bar. We're always there early, too, as "little miss" gets cranky and impatient if it gets too late (not to mention I can't tolerate the cigarette smoke later). We each have one Bloody Mary, and she gets a tomato juice (unlike soda, there is NO caffeine) with olives. She thinks we are drinking "spicey juice".

The place is full of families at that time.

 

[texasmomlost]

Is it too early for a good bloody mary and a steak?

 

[stealth2]

Hey, the sun's over the yardarm somewhere!

 

[nextwife]

Sounds like a good excuse to NOT cook. Too bad kiddo is having a tooth extracted after school. She'll be extra cranky. DANG!

FYI- Here in Beertown, Bloody Mary's are often served with a small beer chaser. Man, that sounds good. I want one of those steaks!

 

[haiku]

in most states, children can be in a bar or lounge area, but they are not allowed to sit AT the bar.

mmm... its a holiday...pass me a good prime rib and though I willl pass on the bloody mary, I will take a big frozen mud slide!

 

[huskerfan41]

It's five o'clock somewhere...

As far as getting a legal opinion on whether or not your child should be allowed into a tatoo parlor --

my suggestion is to take the matter to court.

file a petition for forbidding your children to be allowed in a tatoo parlor with your ex (the children's father)...

make sure when you go to court, that YOUR tatoo's are showing. Let's see what the judge says.

 

[dakoto70]

Sorry

Sorry I am just getting back here.

As far as the ring hurting it hurt very bad. The lady that did my peircing went to far back, my tongue was swollen for almost two weeks and all I could eat were liquids. But my thiking was I paid for it so I would stick it out. I have two sisters and my best friend and her husband, and I know of three more people personally that got their tongue peirced and not a one of them suffered like I did. To me it was well worth it. I have had it for a couple of years now and yes I can feel the difference when the ring is in and when it isn't but I prefer to have it in. When it comes out you can not see the whole and nothing gets in it.

I personally find them sexy as well and I am sorry to burst your bubble Stealth but there is no difference. Atleast for me and the people I have talked to about it if you find someone who says different let me know there secret.

Now for TiTi I am known to be a very over protective mother, this from my kids and from everyone else who knows me as a mother. Now the place that I went to had a wall, with nothing on it, that blocked off everything else. The kids new were we were but they saw nothing. Not a picture of a tatoo, a ring, nothing. It was a spere (sp?) of the moment thing for me when I decided to get it done and they happened to be with me.

As far as bars go I have also taken the kids into the "family" type bars for food during the week and early. I freak if the kids are around someone who is drinking and I can still remeber the one time that I opened a wine cooler in front of the kids, they were shocked and told me that they were telling grandma on me. Ihad to laugh at that and than realized that they had never seen me drink before.

Ok enough lecturing now for the legal part of it. There is no age limit for them to go inside a tatoo parlor nor can you ban the ex from taking them to a place like that. You may not like it but contact a lawyer there is nothing you can do about it.

Again DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF.

 

[stealth2]

Re: Sorry

I am sorry to burst your bubble Stealth but there is no difference.

You may want to reread before posting next time, dakoto. The only comment I made was in reference to infection - not a word about their sexiness or lack of it.