Can we back up a second please?
This is what we have:
1. Dad's original parenting plan hasn't changed in 6 years
2. Dad now wants to see the child, but instead of following the order - and remember folks, it's a court order and not a suggestion - he wants Mom to place said child on a plane to visit Dad in Georgia.
3. I will reiterate - this is a parent who has, but for sporadic phone calls - has done absolutely nothing to see his child in six years.
4. Mom is more than a tad wary of this. I don't blame her. Like it or not, he's pretty much a stranger.
Now, we can go back and forth from here to kingdom come but it won't change the past and we'll be doing the OP a grave disservice if we discuss only the negative consequences. If I was a betting gal, my money would be on Dad having to make the effort in Arizona before anything else happens (even though I did come down hard on her).
Best interests, and all.
I agree. I cannot imagine, even if dad files for contempt because mom refuses to put the child on the plane, that ANY judge, in ANY state would actually hold mom in contempt in this scenario. I do think that a judge would order at least ONE visit between the child and dad in the child's community, and perhaps more than one.
I am suggesting that mom avoid the whole contempt route by filing for a modification to reflect that dad has voluntarily chosen not to visit his child for six years and therefore a new reunification plan needs to be put in place. I do feel that mom needs to do this immediately and get an attorney on board to make sure that something is decided before summer...and time is running short for that.
And yes, the original order was a bit weird, but apparently it was dad's suggestion, not mom's.
I am a bit disappointed in those that say otherwise. Anyone who doesn't grasp that an 11 year old can have a clear and emotional opinion on being separated from either their parents, or the only parent they really know, are not acknowledging that children are PEOPLE...with their own emotions and feelings. Sure, its really easy to blame it on the custodial parent...sure its really easy to say that the child should have no knowledge...but come on people that is just ludicrous.
I know all of you quite well. I am quite certain that not a one of you would leave an 11 year old so in the dark that they little to no warning that they were about to be sent off to spend time with someone they barely know without any real preparation. In my opinion that would be the ultimate in BAD parenting. On top of that for two weeks...I am quite certain that everyone of you recognize what two weeks means to someone at that age.
And if you do not...then I am disappointed in you...and what makes me more disappointed is the fact that I know that all of you know better than that.