California
okay, so i took a day to think this through and not be so pissed off. I am CP, NCP "lost" custody last year over a year long custody issue. recent court orders are there is to be supervised only visitation with the paternal grandmother. children are not to be left there without dad present since there is drugs in her home.
okay. so this weekend is dad's weekend. he drops off the boys, 10yr and 6yr at 8am as usual. however 10yr old walks in the house with a thumb swollen twice it's size and with black bruising all around. asked son what happened, he said it happened at grandma's house. no one took him to a doctor. i take him to the nearest clinic down the street. they say they can't take him on his insurance. so we walk an hour and a half to his primary doctor. i have absolutely no money otherwise i would have bussed it to the emergency room. we wait for a few hours since it's walk in status only. doctor takes a look, says it appears to be broken, refers us to another clinic for x-rays. that clinic is not within walking distance. so i go home, feed kids, call dad. ask him why he didn't take him to the ER or even say anything about it to me. dad said he didn't think it was broken. dad has taken kid in for a sprained pinky finger and a boil on his own, it didn't ring right that a thumb so enlarged didn't ring any bells with this guy. called x-ray place to get address, found it would be closed by the time i got a ride (4pm). they said to come early the next day. i get a ride to the ER later that evening instead. thumb is broken doc puts a cast on it.
here's the problem. 6 yr old made a comment about dad picking them up from grandma's house THAT morning to drop them off at my house because he had to work. so not only was 10 yr old's medical needs neglected, but there is a high possibility dad left them at grandma's house unsupervised. i can't ask the kids to elaborate. they know they aren't supposed to be there. dad told them i said they can't go to grandma's house anymore. not the case, judge ordered it without me even bringing it up at the court hearing.
is this not medical neglect? is there something i can do about it?
okay, so i took a day to think this through and not be so pissed off. I am CP, NCP "lost" custody last year over a year long custody issue. recent court orders are there is to be supervised only visitation with the paternal grandmother. children are not to be left there without dad present since there is drugs in her home.
okay. so this weekend is dad's weekend. he drops off the boys, 10yr and 6yr at 8am as usual. however 10yr old walks in the house with a thumb swollen twice it's size and with black bruising all around. asked son what happened, he said it happened at grandma's house. no one took him to a doctor. i take him to the nearest clinic down the street. they say they can't take him on his insurance. so we walk an hour and a half to his primary doctor. i have absolutely no money otherwise i would have bussed it to the emergency room. we wait for a few hours since it's walk in status only. doctor takes a look, says it appears to be broken, refers us to another clinic for x-rays. that clinic is not within walking distance. so i go home, feed kids, call dad. ask him why he didn't take him to the ER or even say anything about it to me. dad said he didn't think it was broken. dad has taken kid in for a sprained pinky finger and a boil on his own, it didn't ring right that a thumb so enlarged didn't ring any bells with this guy. called x-ray place to get address, found it would be closed by the time i got a ride (4pm). they said to come early the next day. i get a ride to the ER later that evening instead. thumb is broken doc puts a cast on it.
here's the problem. 6 yr old made a comment about dad picking them up from grandma's house THAT morning to drop them off at my house because he had to work. so not only was 10 yr old's medical needs neglected, but there is a high possibility dad left them at grandma's house unsupervised. i can't ask the kids to elaborate. they know they aren't supposed to be there. dad told them i said they can't go to grandma's house anymore. not the case, judge ordered it without me even bringing it up at the court hearing.
is this not medical neglect? is there something i can do about it?