What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NM
Ex and I have joint legal custody with me having "primary physical custody and control" of the kids. We live in different states, me in the midwest, ex on the east coast. Children are 11 and 12 years.
I have been having a lot of issues with my ex-husband. He recently requested extra summer visitation time, which I agreed to some extra time, but not the amount he was asking for. Now, he is very upset with me and telling me he will be taking the kids for X amount of time as he wishes which is clearly against the court order. Court order is very specific about amount of time ex gets.
Due to this, and other issues, I have made an appt. with the lawyer to decide what action to take. Quite honestly, ex is a very difficult person to compromise/coparent with. I try my best, and put up with his nonsense for the sake of the kids, but it is really going to far.
He will not cooperate with me in parenting our children. He refuses to send insurance information, argues over every little medical expense for our children, belittles me in e-mail, has told me I will not have contact with our children over his summer visitation (in e-mail), has told me he has told the kids that if they "want extra time with daddy, they need to take it up with mommy" (in e-mail), has told me he is going to "unload on the kids about me" (in e-mail), he has cussed me out in e-mail, he sometimes e-mails up to 20 times a day to go on and on about nothing, and that is just the start. During his visitations he has cussed our son, cussed about me to our children, called our son white trash, and called to tell me he was going to send our son home. Last summer, son asked to come home and told ex he didn't want to visit him. (son did stay of course)
Recently, I requested he fill out passport applications, told him I would pay for passports and that he too could benefit from them as well. He disagreed with getting passports, telling me "you have no sense of direction, you won't be taking my kids out of country." (in e-mail)
I am assuming a judge can do something about the passport issue... But what about the rest? It's not like ex can be ordered to coparent. Honestly, I just want to be able to get the things done that need to be done in regards to our children. I've considered asking the lawyer about sole custody, but I don't know what the guidelines for that would be...any advice?
Ex and I have joint legal custody with me having "primary physical custody and control" of the kids. We live in different states, me in the midwest, ex on the east coast. Children are 11 and 12 years.
I have been having a lot of issues with my ex-husband. He recently requested extra summer visitation time, which I agreed to some extra time, but not the amount he was asking for. Now, he is very upset with me and telling me he will be taking the kids for X amount of time as he wishes which is clearly against the court order. Court order is very specific about amount of time ex gets.
Due to this, and other issues, I have made an appt. with the lawyer to decide what action to take. Quite honestly, ex is a very difficult person to compromise/coparent with. I try my best, and put up with his nonsense for the sake of the kids, but it is really going to far.
He will not cooperate with me in parenting our children. He refuses to send insurance information, argues over every little medical expense for our children, belittles me in e-mail, has told me I will not have contact with our children over his summer visitation (in e-mail), has told me he has told the kids that if they "want extra time with daddy, they need to take it up with mommy" (in e-mail), has told me he is going to "unload on the kids about me" (in e-mail), he has cussed me out in e-mail, he sometimes e-mails up to 20 times a day to go on and on about nothing, and that is just the start. During his visitations he has cussed our son, cussed about me to our children, called our son white trash, and called to tell me he was going to send our son home. Last summer, son asked to come home and told ex he didn't want to visit him. (son did stay of course)
Recently, I requested he fill out passport applications, told him I would pay for passports and that he too could benefit from them as well. He disagreed with getting passports, telling me "you have no sense of direction, you won't be taking my kids out of country." (in e-mail)
I am assuming a judge can do something about the passport issue... But what about the rest? It's not like ex can be ordered to coparent. Honestly, I just want to be able to get the things done that need to be done in regards to our children. I've considered asking the lawyer about sole custody, but I don't know what the guidelines for that would be...any advice?