Missed court date

[shawnwilliams01]

I live in Oklahoma. i filed a petition for visitation with my son on oct 13th sending via process server. the court date was set for nov 18th. i recieved by certified letter on nov 15th, a notice of continuance so that she could get a lawyer. i just learned that the court date was two days ago but she did not notify me at least not by process server or certified letter. needless to say i was unaware of the court date and missed. my question is what do i do now? and will the judge understand especially since im the one that filed to begin with? i would have thought that she would have to get some kind of reciept stating i recieved the notice.

 

[majomom1]

I live in Oklahoma. i filed a petition for visitation with my son on oct 13th sending via process server. the court date was set for nov 18th. i recieved by certified letter on nov 15th, a notice of continuance so that she could get a lawyer. i just learned that the court date was two days ago but she did not notify me at least not by process server or certified letter. needless to say i was unaware of the court date and missed. my question is what do i do now? and will the judge understand especially since im the one that filed to begin with? i would have thought that she would have to get some kind of reciept stating i recieved the notice.

Did the notice of continuance show the new court date?

 

[shawnwilliams01]

no as a matter of fact the letter of continuance was filed a week before the new date had been set

 

[ecmst12]

And you didn't contact the court to find out when the hearing date is? You'd better get a lawyer before you screw this up even more.

 

[shawnwilliams01]

i called the court when i got the notice and they said there hadnt been a court date set. so after the 20 days was up i was going to do another order set hearing to set another date and send the new date to the mother by process server. btw i cant afford a lawyer. im paying child support and have a family of my own to support

 

[majomom1]

no as a matter of fact the letter of continuance was filed a week before the new date had been set

Huh? You received a certified letter on the 15th? That must have been the request for a continuance... Did you go to court on Nov 18th? or call?

If you do not have an attorney, you have to be proactive and show up, or call to find out court dates.

 

[sometwo]

im paying child support and have a family of my own to support

What? Family of your own? Like this child isn't your family? Was this child first or your "family" . Just curious.

 

[sometwo]

ok I see you have two different threads. Is this for two children? If not then why the double threads. That gets too confusing. I can't just hunt around for your story. Even if it is the top two threads.

 

[shawnwilliams01]

Huh? You received a certified letter on the 15th? That must have been the request for a continuance... Did you go to court on Nov 18th? or call?

If you do not have an attorney, you have to be proactive and show up, or call to find out court dates.

the court date was originally set for nov 18th. i recieved the letter for continuance 3 days before the court date (nov 15). i called the next morning and she had filed for 20 days to get a lawyer. they told me that a court date was not set that she had filed the continuance but did not set another date. so my plan was that once the 20 days was up (dec 6th) i would go to the court house file another "order set hearing" to recieve a court date and have it sent to the mother by process server. she had gotten a court date and filed the continuance for hearing but did not send it to me. so i wasnt aware of the court date. in other words she did not send it by certified mail, process server, publication.

 

[shawnwilliams01]

What? Family of your own? Like this child isn't your family? Was this child first or your "family" . Just curious.

my family because i did not know about my son till july. btw i knew someone would take that out of context. always has to be someone self rightous huh?

 

[stealth2]

always has to be someone self rightous huh?

Always has to be someone with a chip on their shoulder, huh?

 

[shawnwilliams01]

ok I see you have two different threads. Is this for two children? If not then why the double threads. That gets too confusing. I can't just hunt around for your story. Even if it is the top two threads.

no its for the same child. i just found out today after i had been working on the case and posted the other thread. so i guess you could say im needing to deal with this before i do the name change.
sorry about the confusion. i posted two different threads because its two different topics. thank you for your help

 

[sometwo]

Always has to be someone with a chip on their shoulder, huh?

Guess it had to be me

 

[CJane]

So, you have ONE child with a woman and with whom paternity was established in June.

And A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT CHILD that you found out about in July?

And you're trying to handle two different court cases regarding two different children with two different women at the same time without an attorney?

 

[stealth2]

So, you have ONE child with a woman and with whom paternity was established in June.

And A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT CHILD that you found out about in July?

And you're trying to handle two different court cases regarding two different children with two different women at the same time without an attorney?

No, I think it is only the one child.