What is the name of your state? Missouri
Child is 15.
Joint custody - w majority of time spent with father.
Mother has had previous issues with denied visitations, visitations time shortened. Mother tried working around school schedules, etc. But that has now expanded to anything that the child would like to schedule during mom's time. Father allowing child to do other things and not having child available during mothers visitations. (documentation by police department - only log entry verifications because the local departments do not "want to be involved" in civil matters.)
Child now calls mother with "your options for my visit". I got something I want to do and can be there at this time, or you reschedule. When can you reschedule? Actually stated that weekends are booked from now until school ends and that summer time would have to work around his schedule and camps.
Father stated that it's not moms time or dads time, its childs time and just deal with it.
There are other issues of fathers inability to provide for the child -- grandparents are supporting fathers household currently (rent, utilities, bills, etc) and mother is helping to provide incidentals for child (clothing, school supplies, etc) on top of the child support paid to father. Mother hadn't pursued the issue previously because between mom and grandpa everything was provided.
Missouri listens to a child at 10, if they can express their desires with rational reasoning. The childs expressed desires is to stay at dads and show up if and when he wants to. His reasoning is that he can not help that events are scheduled on moms time.
Mother wants to repair the damage already done to mother/child relationship and prevent further damage from occuring.
All of the ground work to allow a modification is there --- denied visitations, fathers interference with mother/child relationship, along with fathers inability to provide for child.
I have heard everything imaginable.....He's 15, you can't force him to visit.
Is a modification even logical at this age?