What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? New Hampshire
I live in WI now, but our case is in NH. My daughter is 10 and still live in NH with her mother, I haven't seen her for over a year now.
When my family and I moved out here to WI, my daughters mom and I came to a verbal agreement that my daughter could spend the summers here and eventually school vacations as well. Last summer our daughter did get to come visit us for 2 months, but this summer mom said no.
Mom has full custody, established when our daughter was 3. I didn't get to see my daughter until she was 3, and since then we have established our relationship. Until I moved out here to WI I had my daughter either every weekend or every other weekend for years. Her mom and I don't get along too well and don't see eye to eye on a lot, we've gotten past this before, but now we're fighting again. I admit my temper has gotten the best of me with her and I've sent her some nasty emails in the past, which she holds a grudge and uses our daughter against me for. She's just SO controlling and I've gotten so frustrated because I have NO say in our daughters life. And now she won't let me see her and she's not answering my calls.
I have filed court actions and our court date is in November. I can't afford a lawyer, I can hardly afford this trip. I pay my child support and have steadily for years now. Her Mom mentioned on a phone call that she plans on going after me for an increase too because she snooped on me online and noticed I made a campaign contribution.
I'm not a perfect parent but I'm not abusive. I want legal rights to my daughter so that I know when her Mom and I aren't getting along she can't just shut me out. Is living in a different state going to hinder this? Will my emails be used against me? What are the chances I can overturn this full custody status, get legal joint, and see my daughter again?
I feel I should mention she did have my daughter call me once right when she was served her papers to ask me questions about why I'm taking them to court. I found this inappropriate. But since then, a couple months ago now, she refuses to answer or return my phone calls. She just had the court date moved to a month from when it was originally planned. I would like to spend some time with my daughter while I'm out there and phoned her to organize this, but she just refuses to call me back.