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What is the name of your state? Fathers - PA, Children & Mother - MD
My fiance has been divorced for 16 years and has 4 children with his ex-wife. There is only one of legal custody age and he's 16. Both the 16-year-old and 19-year-old live with their mother in MD. We live in PA. It's a 3-hour drive. The mother will only allow Mike to visit his children at her house on the holidays. We went there for Thanksgiving and, while it was uncomfortable, there were no significant problems. However, she has since forbade my fiance from visiting at Christmas unless he visits alone, without me. She claims all the children (ages 16 - 25) have a problem with his bringing me. When he has discussed the issue with each of the children, they've said I'm welcome. The mother has a history of trying to re-estabish the relationship with Mike, even though she's been re-married for 10 years. Over the past 16 years, she has made every contact with the children very difficult, including moving 3 hours away even though it wasn't for a job or anything tangible. When the children have expressed a desire to have contact with their father over the years, she calls them traitors and threatens to cut them off.
Mike has refused her terms for a Christmas visit. However, I think it's important for him to at least offer to see the children outside of their mother's home, understanding she would make it emotionally impossible for that to actually happen. Mike is so fed up with having to jump through the hoops all these years and wants to let it go. What can be done with this situation to make future contacts occur as smoothly as possible. Again, there's only one child of custody age left in the home (M/16).
Rebecca
My fiance has been divorced for 16 years and has 4 children with his ex-wife. There is only one of legal custody age and he's 16. Both the 16-year-old and 19-year-old live with their mother in MD. We live in PA. It's a 3-hour drive. The mother will only allow Mike to visit his children at her house on the holidays. We went there for Thanksgiving and, while it was uncomfortable, there were no significant problems. However, she has since forbade my fiance from visiting at Christmas unless he visits alone, without me. She claims all the children (ages 16 - 25) have a problem with his bringing me. When he has discussed the issue with each of the children, they've said I'm welcome. The mother has a history of trying to re-estabish the relationship with Mike, even though she's been re-married for 10 years. Over the past 16 years, she has made every contact with the children very difficult, including moving 3 hours away even though it wasn't for a job or anything tangible. When the children have expressed a desire to have contact with their father over the years, she calls them traitors and threatens to cut them off.
Mike has refused her terms for a Christmas visit. However, I think it's important for him to at least offer to see the children outside of their mother's home, understanding she would make it emotionally impossible for that to actually happen. Mike is so fed up with having to jump through the hoops all these years and wants to let it go. What can be done with this situation to make future contacts occur as smoothly as possible. Again, there's only one child of custody age left in the home (M/16).
Rebecca