OP, your son NEEDS to fly to NY immediately. Because they were still married there are legal ramifications involved with her death. Unless mom left a POA naming her parents as responsible for making decisions after her death, that responsibility is the husband's. OP's son is the one who should have been consulted and made the final decision on everything.
Originally Posted by nextwife
Then there are the estate issues -- If there was no will then by intestate succession he inherits at least a percentage depending on whether this woman had any other children who were not his.
Parents should remember 3 things: Love your kids more than you hate your ex; when you have children the relationship with the other parent is until death; your children determine what type of nursing home you end up in.
Nothing stated by me should be taken as giving you legal advice or forming an attorney/client relationship.
Attorney-GAL in Ohio.
I've removed the knife from my back, polished it, and will one day return it -- long after you think I have forgotten.