A Mother In Need Part 1

[Mdogm7]

What is the name of your state? South Carolina

TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN:

This letter is going out to everyone I can find in the phonebook, on the internet, to anyone I think will listen. I am a mother who is fighting to get her children back from D.S.S. and to put my life and family back together. My case started in Nov. 2003 and now is just lingering on without a sign of closure. In the past three years I feel as though I have been stripped of my rights as a U.S. Citizen, of my dignity, and the custody of my two younger children over allegations that were never clarified. I have no legal council, I had a lawyer and the D.S.S. dismissed him and told me I didn’t really need one (he was court appointed).Ron’s lawyer is Craig Jones, but he told me he cannot represent both of us. I am not familiar with the judicial system, which I think benefited them (D.S.S.) on decisions and choices that were made over the past three years. I have been threatened, lied to, and tricked into signing documents that I think hurt this case. This case started when my oldest child made allegations that my fiancé touched her and kissed her on her neck. This is where everyone usually sits back in their chair and looks at me like I am an unfit mother taking her fiancé over her child, but it is bigger than this incident and if you will keep reading I can explain. Everyone is supposed to be innocent until proven guilty and as representatives of this state you are supposed to uphold this.
We have done everything these people have asked us to do and then some. There was an allegation that he kissed her on the neck and she was immediately rushed to get D.N.A. tests at the Low Country’s Children Center and all of those came up negative. We went to Dr. Burke, on our own and paid $1600 out of our pocket, without D.S.S. even knowing we went. So when they asked for an assessment, we already had it done by the best doctor there was. I guess because it didn’t say what they wanted they never even used it. Dr. Burke wrote that Ronald Adams was AT NO RISK TO ANY CHILD INSIDE OR OUTSIDE OF THE HOME. So when they wanted him to go to sexual abuse classes we went back to Dr. Burke since he had done the assessment and he refused to see Ronald because he couldn’t understand why they would say he needed classes when he passed the assessment, and there was no court order for it. The criminal case Marguerite had against Ron was closed in around April of 2004 and no charges were brought against him. We tried going to Tom LaRoach for the classes and he would not see him either. We finally found a lady who would accept him and he has been in these classes since February 2006. The only thing with these classes is the way you get out. Everyone in these classes are on probation, Ron is not. When they get off probation the classes are over for them. We were told that when he finished these classes we could get the girls back, but how can we finish them if he’s not on probation because that’s how you get out of the class. We were tricked into signing a paper they called a “Waiver Without Admittance”. My case worker, Marcella Nelson and the prosecutor, Mr. Frampton, told Ron’s lawyer, Craig Jones, that if we would just sign that paper everything would be over when we went into the courtroom and the girls would come home. Frampton explained to us that the paper is not admitting that Ron had done anything, all it would do is put you on a D.S.S. list that no one even sees anyways. We were told that this was all we had to do to bring the girls home, they just wanted his name on the list. Frampton said if we didn’t sign it that we would have to go to trial and that it is almost impossible to win against D.S.S. because they always go in favor of the child, and in doing this I would lose my girls for good. So we went ahead and signed it, the way it was presented to us it didn’t look like we were given no other choice. When we went into the courtroom the judge denied the offer to let the case be dropped in this way and said Ron would have to go to sexual classes because he signed the paper. He has been attending these classes every week for a year now, so what next? When is this going to end? And why is it okay for the prosecutor, Mr. Frampton, to stand in front of me outside of the courtroom and talk about me like I am a dog. He and the case worker were discussing me, telling each other how my kids don’t even want to come home, how I threw them away and things like that right there in front of everyone. This man has never even spoke to my children, my children ask me everyday when are they coming home. My kids grandparents says the only time the case worker even calls to check on them is right before a court date, which is about once a year. Why don’t you ask her if she knows my girl’s grades, or if she knows Shawna has just been suspended out of school for the third time for fighting because she is rebelling because she wants to come home? Ask her to tell you anything about the girls.
Neither I nor Ron use drugs or alcohol. We both have good jobs and can well support and nurture these children. I am also in school, going to Trident Tech to be a Vet Tech, and we are getting ready to try to open a small business so when the girls grow up they will already have something to start them off. These allegations were falsely made and what D.S.S. needs to be doing is trying to get Marguerite the right kind of counseling before she ruins more lives. The ones who are really suffering are my youngest two girls; Cierra has never left my side and this is destroying her.
In three years I have not had visitation with my two younger children. I asked the case worker if I could get them last summer and I was told no, they said they were afraid I would allow them to have contact with Ron. I asked if my sister could get them for the summer so they could see their family and was denied that. I was told that if I brought my children back to South Carolina they would take them from me and put them in a foster home. When I try to contact Marcella Nelson to find out what is going on with the case she is rude and gives me no information. What I am trying to figure out is why I have not had a court date since January, 2006? All before we were going every other month, now we’ve come this far and we can’t get in front of a judge? I need to know when there will be an end to this case and when are my babies coming home, or Atleast give me something to work towards! And it doesn’t help any knowing you have no one on your side. The Guardian, Thomas Goldstein, was sending letters to the kids grandfather telling me to talk me into signing over my rights to him because if not they would drag this case out until my girls are eighteen. IS THAT LEGAL??
FINISH READING IN PART 2 (IT WAS TOO LONG)

[Shay-Pari'e]

Originally Posted by Mdogm7

What is the name of your state? South Carolina

TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN:

This letter is going out to everyone I can find in the phonebook, on the internet, to anyone I think will listen. I am a mother who is fighting to get her children back from D.S.S. and to put my life and family back together. My case started in Nov. 2003 and now is just lingering on without a sign of closure. In the past three years I feel as though I have been stripped of my rights as a U.S. Citizen, of my dignity, and the custody of my two younger children over allegations that were never clarified. I have no legal council, I had a lawyer and the D.S.S. dismissed him and told me I didn’t really need one (he was court appointed).Ron’s lawyer is Craig Jones, but he told me he cannot represent both of us. I am not familiar with the judicial system, which I think benefited them (D.S.S.) on decisions and choices that were made over the past three years. I have been threatened, lied to, and tricked into signing documents that I think hurt this case. This case started when my oldest child made allegations that my fiancé touched her and kissed her on her neck. This is where everyone usually sits back in their chair and looks at me like I am an unfit mother taking her fiancé over her child, but it is bigger than this incident and if you will keep reading I can explain. Everyone is supposed to be innocent until proven guilty and as representatives of this state you are supposed to uphold this.
We have done everything these people have asked us to do and then some. There was an allegation that he kissed her on the neck and she was immediately rushed to get D.N.A. tests at the Low Country’s Children Center and all of those came up negative.

DNA for what again?
We went to Dr. Burke, on our own and paid $1600 out of our pocket, without D.S.S. even knowing we went. So when they asked for an assessment, we already had it done by the best doctor there was. I guess because it didn’t say what they wanted they never even used it. Dr. Burke wrote that Ronald Adams was AT NO RISK TO ANY CHILD INSIDE OR OUTSIDE OF THE HOME. So when they wanted him to go to sexual abuse classes we went back to Dr. Burke since he had done the assessment and he refused to see Ronald because he couldn’t understand why they would say he needed classes when he passed the assessment, and there was no court order for it.Still making no sense.

The criminal case Marguerite had against Ron was closed in around April of 2004 and no charges were brought against him. We tried going to Tom LaRoach for the classes and he would not see him either. We finally found a lady who would accept him and he has been in these classes since February 2006.Umm, still not making any sense.

The only thing with these classes is the way you get out. Everyone in these classes are on probation, Ron is not. When they get off probation the classes are over for them. We were told that when he finished these classes we could get the girls back, but how can we finish them if he’s not on probation because that’s how you get out of the class.Lord, could you make ANY less sense. We were tricked into signing a paper they called a “Waiver Without Admittance”. My case worker, Marcella Nelson and the prosecutor, Mr. Frampton, told Ron’s lawyer, Craig Jones, that if we would just sign that paper everything would be over when we went into the courtroom and the girls would come home. Frampton explained to us that the paper is not admitting that Ron had done anything, all it would do is put you on a D.S.S. list that no one even sees anyways. We were told that this was all we had to do to bring the girls home, they just wanted his name on the list. Frampton said if we didn’t sign it that we would have to go to trial and that it is almost impossible to win against D.S.S. because they always go in favor of the child, and in doing this I would lose my girls for good. So we went ahead and signed it, the way it was presented to us it didn’t look like we were given no other choice. When we went into the courtroom the judge denied the offer to let the case be dropped in this way and said Ron would have to go to sexual classes because he signed the paper. He has been attending these classes every week for a year now, so what next? When is this going to end?Maybie when you choose your kids over your boyfriend?

And why is it okay for the prosecutor, Mr. Frampton, to stand in front of me outside of the courtroom and talk about me like I am a dog. He and the case worker were discussing me, telling each other how my kids don’t even want to come home, how I threw them away and things like that right there in front of everyone. Sounds like you did.This man has never even spoke to my children, my children ask me everyday when are they coming home. My kids grandparents says the only time the case worker even calls to check on them is right before a court date, which is about once a year. Why don’t you ask her if she knows my girl’s grades, or if she knows Shawna has just been suspended out of school for the third time for fighting because she is rebelling because she wants to come home? Ask her to tell you anything about the girls.
Neither I nor Ron use drugs or alcohol. We both have good jobs and can well support and nurture these children. I am also in school, going to Trident Tech to be a Vet Tech, and we are getting ready to try to open a small business so when the girls grow up they will already have something to start them off. These allegations were falsely made and what D.S.S. needs to be doing is trying to get Marguerite the right kind of counseling before she ruins more lives. The ones who are really suffering are my youngest two girls; Cierra has never left my side and this is destroying her.
In three years I have not had visitation with my two younger children. I asked the case worker if I could get them last summer and I was told no, they said they were afraid I would allow them to have contact with Ron. I asked if my sister could get them for the summer so they could see their family and was denied that. I was told that if I brought my children back to South Carolina they would take them from me and put them in a foster home. When I try to contact Marcella Nelson to find out what is going on with the case she is rude and gives me no information. What I am trying to figure out is why I have not had a court date since January, 2006? All before we were going every other month, now we’ve come this far and we can’t get in front of a judge? I need to know when there will be an end to this case and when are my babies coming home, or Atleast give me something to work towards! And it doesn’t help any knowing you have no one on your side. The Guardian, Thomas Goldstein, was sending letters to the kids grandfather telling me to talk me into signing over my rights to him because if not they would drag this case out until my girls are eighteen. IS THAT LEGAL??
FINISH READING IN PART 2 (IT WAS TOO LONG)

Part 2? Nope, can't stomach it.

[AHA]

Jesus, OPs either exclude all the vital info or they write a frikkin War and Peace novel. When is anyone ever going to learn?