bystander14
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? Minnesota
My fiance's ex has no concern for the children. They have joint legal custody, she has full physical custody. He tried for shared physical but she told him "only if you pay me $1000 a month for 10 years". He said no, and since they couldn't agree, the court automatically gave her physical custody. Not to mention she got the house they had together for 10 years and everything in the house. The judge's reasoning was so that the kids would be able to stay in their stable environment. As soon as the divorce was final she sold it and moved into her boyfriends. That was 10 months ago, they are now seperated and her and the kids moved into her sisters house in yet another school district. The problem we have right now is she wants him to take the kids all of the time, but she wants her child support and that is why she wants full custody. We take them 1 night a week (sometimes 2) and every other weekend. He only has to give her 24 hours notice when he cannot take them on his parenting time (and this schedule was also court ordered). We have followed the court order and the only time he does not take the kids on his parenting time is maybe 2 weekends a year. Well, she hates the schedule because she wants him to take them more and she showed up last weekend and dropped the kids off after he gave her 4 days notice that he could not take them last weekend. He was not home, I was. So I let them stay, I do not want them to think that we do not want them, but I am sick of letting her get away with all of this. She also is always late, usually at least an hour, when she comes to pick them up. She was court ordered to let Dave claim the oldest on his taxes, she didn't care and filed her taxes first, taking the deduction. When he filed his, he got a letter back from the state saying that the child was already used as a deduction and he cannot do that. We have already spent so much money on court. Is there anything we can do? We keep a calendar that lists everytime we have the kids and every little problem we have with her. How long do we do this before we take her to court? Is there anything I can do because she drops the kids off and he is not there? I am perfectly capable of taking care of them, but I am not their parent and that is not my responsibility when it is her parenting time.
My fiance's ex has no concern for the children. They have joint legal custody, she has full physical custody. He tried for shared physical but she told him "only if you pay me $1000 a month for 10 years". He said no, and since they couldn't agree, the court automatically gave her physical custody. Not to mention she got the house they had together for 10 years and everything in the house. The judge's reasoning was so that the kids would be able to stay in their stable environment. As soon as the divorce was final she sold it and moved into her boyfriends. That was 10 months ago, they are now seperated and her and the kids moved into her sisters house in yet another school district. The problem we have right now is she wants him to take the kids all of the time, but she wants her child support and that is why she wants full custody. We take them 1 night a week (sometimes 2) and every other weekend. He only has to give her 24 hours notice when he cannot take them on his parenting time (and this schedule was also court ordered). We have followed the court order and the only time he does not take the kids on his parenting time is maybe 2 weekends a year. Well, she hates the schedule because she wants him to take them more and she showed up last weekend and dropped the kids off after he gave her 4 days notice that he could not take them last weekend. He was not home, I was. So I let them stay, I do not want them to think that we do not want them, but I am sick of letting her get away with all of this. She also is always late, usually at least an hour, when she comes to pick them up. She was court ordered to let Dave claim the oldest on his taxes, she didn't care and filed her taxes first, taking the deduction. When he filed his, he got a letter back from the state saying that the child was already used as a deduction and he cannot do that. We have already spent so much money on court. Is there anything we can do? We keep a calendar that lists everytime we have the kids and every little problem we have with her. How long do we do this before we take her to court? Is there anything I can do because she drops the kids off and he is not there? I am perfectly capable of taking care of them, but I am not their parent and that is not my responsibility when it is her parenting time.