MeMyselfNI
Junior Member
State: Ohio.
State: Ohio.
Sorry this is gonna be lengthy. I just want to make sure I am doing things correctly. We are both pro-se.
I have a pre-trial hearing coming up in a couple of weeks. Currently there is no order for visitation and that is what this hearing is for. The mother and I were never married. At the same time I filed for this hearing to establish my rights and visitation, I also submitted a shared parenting plan that was pretty detailed (I got it from deltabravo and tweaked a couple of things and also added a few things that are relevant to the parents). This was late November.
As of now, the mother has not submitted a plan at all and has only stated she is not going to sign it and has stated that I should get visitation only and not joint legal custody. She offered no reason whatsoever. She also claims that it's too controlling (which it isn't...she just doesn't like the idea that now she has to run things through me as well and she can't make all the decisions). Just seems like the typical "I get your money and will call the shots, too" woman. At this same time I filed the parenting plan and to establish visitation, I also a motion for temporary visitation, with a few stipulations included because it was close to Christmas at the time. I have seen the children before, but mom won't let me see them now. She filed some stupid response, but because her response failed to follow proper rules of civil procedure, I filed a motion to have it dismissed. Then they added my motion Motion on Temporary Visitation, in addition to a pre-trial hearing.
As far as the parenting plan goes...it'll be 8 weeks since this was filed and she hasn't even shown the court what she wants, except for some garbage about not giving me ONLY visitation and no joint legal. BTW...she's got nothing on me...no criminal record, no drinking, drugs, etc...I am a clean person. If at the hearing, she has NOT filed anything as far as what she wants or her own plan, can I simply motion to order on my shared parenting plan (after all, 8 weeks is plenty of time to file SOMETHING). OR is it standard for the court to establish visitation then the parenting plan later (even though the kids are not "strangers"...they know me and have spent time w/me unsupervised)? Kids are 8 by the way.
I don't think the Judge will tell her that she needs to file one (I would think that would be considered "legal advice), but if they deny my motion to order on my plan, should I motion for mediation or wait it out to see if she files something STILL and motion again to have my plan entered into the court. I just don't see any point in mediating my plan when there's honestly nothing wrong with it and since she failed to submit her own plan. She really doesn't have a clue what she's doing. I am not saying that to be mean, but it's true. She thinks a court of law is like what's on TV during the day haha).
Also, what happens usually at these pre-trial hearings?
She's doing her case pro se, too...but relies on name-calling and making baseless accusations as her defense. When she files this garbage as her "response", I file the appropriate motion to have it striken because it usually doesn't follow the rules of civil procedure, doesn't include any evidence, and/or doesn't state an "action" that is required. Meanwhile, my stuff has case law, evidence, follows local and state procedure, etc. I will be filing a motion to have her mentally evaluated by the court because of her actions (letters, phone harassment, name-calling) and will be requesting she held responsible for all costs since she has brought this on herself.
There's more to this that I have questions on, but I asked enough and ranted on too long with this one. Sorry if anyone trailed off and thanks for any advice. Hope this made sense.
State: Ohio.
Sorry this is gonna be lengthy. I just want to make sure I am doing things correctly. We are both pro-se.
I have a pre-trial hearing coming up in a couple of weeks. Currently there is no order for visitation and that is what this hearing is for. The mother and I were never married. At the same time I filed for this hearing to establish my rights and visitation, I also submitted a shared parenting plan that was pretty detailed (I got it from deltabravo and tweaked a couple of things and also added a few things that are relevant to the parents). This was late November.
As of now, the mother has not submitted a plan at all and has only stated she is not going to sign it and has stated that I should get visitation only and not joint legal custody. She offered no reason whatsoever. She also claims that it's too controlling (which it isn't...she just doesn't like the idea that now she has to run things through me as well and she can't make all the decisions). Just seems like the typical "I get your money and will call the shots, too" woman. At this same time I filed the parenting plan and to establish visitation, I also a motion for temporary visitation, with a few stipulations included because it was close to Christmas at the time. I have seen the children before, but mom won't let me see them now. She filed some stupid response, but because her response failed to follow proper rules of civil procedure, I filed a motion to have it dismissed. Then they added my motion Motion on Temporary Visitation, in addition to a pre-trial hearing.
As far as the parenting plan goes...it'll be 8 weeks since this was filed and she hasn't even shown the court what she wants, except for some garbage about not giving me ONLY visitation and no joint legal. BTW...she's got nothing on me...no criminal record, no drinking, drugs, etc...I am a clean person. If at the hearing, she has NOT filed anything as far as what she wants or her own plan, can I simply motion to order on my shared parenting plan (after all, 8 weeks is plenty of time to file SOMETHING). OR is it standard for the court to establish visitation then the parenting plan later (even though the kids are not "strangers"...they know me and have spent time w/me unsupervised)? Kids are 8 by the way.
I don't think the Judge will tell her that she needs to file one (I would think that would be considered "legal advice), but if they deny my motion to order on my plan, should I motion for mediation or wait it out to see if she files something STILL and motion again to have my plan entered into the court. I just don't see any point in mediating my plan when there's honestly nothing wrong with it and since she failed to submit her own plan. She really doesn't have a clue what she's doing. I am not saying that to be mean, but it's true. She thinks a court of law is like what's on TV during the day haha).
Also, what happens usually at these pre-trial hearings?
She's doing her case pro se, too...but relies on name-calling and making baseless accusations as her defense. When she files this garbage as her "response", I file the appropriate motion to have it striken because it usually doesn't follow the rules of civil procedure, doesn't include any evidence, and/or doesn't state an "action" that is required. Meanwhile, my stuff has case law, evidence, follows local and state procedure, etc. I will be filing a motion to have her mentally evaluated by the court because of her actions (letters, phone harassment, name-calling) and will be requesting she held responsible for all costs since she has brought this on herself.
There's more to this that I have questions on, but I asked enough and ranted on too long with this one. Sorry if anyone trailed off and thanks for any advice. Hope this made sense.