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Old 11-04-2009, 06:59 PM
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Moving the kids out of state

I live in Texas. My boyfriends ex wants to move the kids to Branson, Missouri and he didn't sign for that because as of now they already live 6 hours away. In retatliation she has served him papers taking him to court so that I cannot spend the night when the kids come to visit. We have been living together for a year now. Also she wants the court to be moved from our county to her county and have him pay all court costs? Can this really happen? Would the judge rule in her favor and I wouldnt be allowed to stay at my own home when the kids come to visit?? Please help....he doesnt have to be in court for 120 days thats too long for me to wait.
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I live in Texas. My boyfriends ex wants to move the kids to Branson, Missouri and he didn't sign for that because as of now they already live 6 hours away. In retatliation she has served him papers taking him to court so that I cannot spend the night when the kids come to visit. We have been living together for a year now. Also she wants the court to be moved from our county to her county and have him pay all court costs? Can this really happen? Would the judge rule in her favor and I wouldnt be allowed to stay at my own home when the kids come to visit?? Please help....he doesnt have to be in court for 120 days thats too long for me to wait.
Seems to me that the father is fine with this, or HE'D be on here asking questions. This is HIS fight, you have no say.
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Old 11-04-2009, 07:20 PM
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I know that I have no say. He is working right now so there is no way to get ahold of lawyer. He obviously is not okay with this or he would have let them move out of state and none of this would be happening. Please dont reply if your not helping in any way. This is a very sad situation and I just need some support and if anyone knows anything I would like to hear it.
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I live in Texas. My boyfriends ex wants to move the kids to Branson, Missouri and he didn't sign for that because as of now they already live 6 hours away.
Who created the distance?

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In retatliation she has served him papers taking him to court so that I cannot spend the night when the kids come to visit. We have been living together for a year now. Also she wants the court to be moved from our county to her county and have him pay all court costs? Can this really happen?
Yes. On both counts. It's not uncommon to have a "no paramour" clause in a custody/visitation arrangement and she is free to request her legal fees are paid. Will it happen? Nobody can say - it's impossible to predict.

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Would the judge rule in her favor and I wouldnt be allowed to stay at my own home when the kids come to visit?? Please help....he doesnt have to be in court for 120 days thats too long for me to wait.
You honestly have no fight here - this is a legal board, not a support board. Have him speak to an attorney ASAP.

And - I'm saying this to try and prevent further angst for you and your boyfriend - you need to get used to being told that this does not involve you; learn now how to take a few steps back and I promise you it will prevent a whole lot of trouble in the future.
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Old 11-04-2009, 07:49 PM
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she created the distance. She moved back to her home town with the kids.


in their divorce decree it says nothing about future relationships. She is doing this because he won't sign off to let her move out of state.
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Also....this website is free advice.... I'm asking for advice. I hate to sit here and watch her do this to him. hes a good dad and shes trying to take that away from him and its not fair. so im asking advice
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she created the distance. She moved back to her home town with the kids.


in their divorce decree it says nothing about future relationships. She is doing this because he won't sign off to let her move out of state.
Dad is already 6 hours away - how much further would the move actually add?

Seriously - Mom might have a chance at getting what she wants regardless.
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If he and I were married could the court still rule that I not be there when they come down to visit? I mean come on....we are starting our life together.
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Also....this website is free advice.... I'm asking for advice. I hate to sit here and watch her do this to him. hes a good dad and shes trying to take that away from him and its not fair. so im asking advice
OK please - stop right there.

He can be the best dad in the world and he's still six hours away - what did he do to try and stop that move?

Were you around at the time? Were you together with both of them while this was going on?
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Branson would be a 13 hour drive. and she's not taking him to court to get to move shes taking him to court to have it where I cannot stay at my house that we share when his kids come to visit
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If he and I were married could the court still rule that I not be there when they come down to visit? I mean come on....we are starting our life together.
Get your boyfriend to come and register please. It'll be far easier to advise him; he and his ex are the only ones who will, realistically, know exactly what's gone on in the past and what is important now.
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he has told me that she moved there when they were filing because her support system was there. Theres so much more to this woman.
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he has told me that she moved there when they were filing because her support system was there. Theres so much more to this woman.
Please have him come here himself.

What he has told you is not necessarily the truth.
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Old 11-04-2009, 08:00 PM
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He cannot come on right now. He's at work. He is in the midst of dealing with a lawyer....but i just wanted to know what could realistically happen.

Could the court rule that I not stay over when the kids visit? And what if we got married??? Thats really all I wanted to know.

I really appreciate your advice.
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He cannot come on right now. He's at work. He is in the midst of dealing with a lawyer....but i just wanted to know what could realistically happen.
well when he gets off work, sit him down, have him sign his own name. i'm sure someone will be online when that happens.

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Could the court rule that I not stay over when the kids visit? And what if we got married??? Thats really all I wanted to know.
a no paramour order is quite common. were mom and dad married?

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