moving out of state with child?

[Zigner]

Not the first time filing. Filed a petition for modification in 2011 and 2013 as well. Initial hearing happened, dad never showed up after initial hearings, everything dropped. I guess its hard to give a good picture of all that's gone on in 7 years via the internet.

It wasn't worth it to pursue at that time, but it is now...

 

[nymommy2015]

You allowed "the issue" to be dropped. People don't get out of trouble just by not showing up to court.

IF it was urgent or real or of great concern, you -- as a caring, protective, truthful, RESPONSIBLE Mother -- would have followed through.

You're not the first, won't be the last.

Yes, actually they were dropped.. No show, petition dropped. Just like that. I will not allow anyone to judge me. I will not sit here and defend myself to a bunch of people that I do not know. Especially because you're not seeing the whole picture. I am obviously done here. I am an amazing mother. Everything I do is for my child. If the courts want to allow his father to continue to harass, control, and abuse me and my son... Then there is something wrong with our system. I told myself I would not get emotional over this post. But its apparent that this forum is filled with men and only think about "fathers right". Forget the fact that he's abuse/controlled us for 7 years, forget about the fact that being somewhere else would greatly improve my childs life (lets just let him grow up in an area that more people than not are abusing heroin), let him grow up in a place where his education and services to help him have a functional life as an autistic child are compromised, because his father has the "right" to basically make us live this way. Not to mention, make me give up MY right to give my child the best life possible, make me give up MY right to start a long lasting healthy family... Why? But yeah, thank you all... I'm done here.

 

[Silverplum]

Yes, actually they were dropped.. No show, petition dropped. Just like that. I will not allow anyone to judge me. I will not sit here and defend myself to a bunch of people that I do not know. Especially because you're not seeing the whole picture. I am obviously done here. I am an amazing mother. Everything I do is for my child. If the courts want to allow his father to continue to harass, control, and abuse me and my son... Then there is something wrong with our system. I told myself I would not get emotional over this post. But its apparent that this forum is filled with men and only think about "fathers right". Forget the fact that he's abuse/controlled us for 7 years, forget about the fact that being somewhere else would greatly improve my childs life (lets just let him grow up in an area that more people than not are abusing heroin), let him grow up in a place where his education and services to help him have a functional life as an autistic child are compromised, because his father has the "right" to basically make us live this way. Not to mention, make me give up MY right to give my child the best life possible, make me give up MY right to start a long lasting healthy family... Why? But yeah, thank you all... I'm done here.

You're ever-so welcome.

Sincerely,
Mrs. Plum

 

[stealth2]

Yes, actually they were dropped.. No show, petition dropped. Just like that. I will not allow anyone to judge me. I will not sit here and defend myself to a bunch of people that I do not know. Especially because you're not seeing the whole picture. I am obviously done here. I am an amazing mother. Everything I do is for my child. If the courts want to allow his father to continue to harass, control, and abuse me and my son... Then there is something wrong with our system. I told myself I would not get emotional over this post. But its apparent that this forum is filled with men and only think about "fathers right". Forget the fact that he's abuse/controlled us for 7 years, forget about the fact that being somewhere else would greatly improve my childs life (lets just let him grow up in an area that more people than not are abusing heroin), let him grow up in a place where his education and services to help him have a functional life as an autistic child are compromised, because his father has the "right" to basically make us live this way. Not to mention, make me give up MY right to give my child the best life possible, make me give up MY right to start a long lasting healthy family... Why? But yeah, thank you all... I'm done here.

Oh please. Let's lose the drama now, shall we? Because it will not serve you well in court. Not at all.

For starters, NYS is not fond of relocation in custody cases. Which means you have have to convince the court to allow it.

Your and your fiance's betterment is moot to the court. Only the child's best interest matter. He was neglected? How? When? For how long? What did you do to mitigate that neglect? Who did you report it to? What did you file? And so on and so forth.

That's enough to start with...

 

[Proserpina]

(Um... how many of us woke up this morning startled at realizing we'd changed gender overnight? Pretty sure I didn't.... )

 

[Just Blue]

Yes, actually they were dropped.. No show, petition dropped. Just like that. I will not allow anyone to judge me. I will not sit here and defend myself to a bunch of people that I do not know. Especially because you're not seeing the whole picture. I am obviously done here. I am an amazing mother. Everything I do is for my child. If the courts want to allow his father to continue to harass, control, and abuse me and my son... Then there is something wrong with our system. I told myself I would not get emotional over this post. But its apparent that this forum is filled with men and only think about "fathers right". Forget the fact that he's abuse/controlled us for 7 years, forget about the fact that being somewhere else would greatly improve my childs life (lets just let him grow up in an area that more people than not are abusing heroin), let him grow up in a place where his education and services to help him have a functional life as an autistic child are compromised, because his father has the "right" to basically make us live this way. Not to mention, make me give up MY right to give my child the best life possible, make me give up MY right to start a long lasting healthy family... Why? But yeah, thank you all... I'm done here.

I know you said you are done here...but just in case you see this please realize that just about every person to post to your thread is female and either a parent or step-parent.
They volunteer all the knowledge that they have learned to others. For FREE. I really doubt they do this for any reason other than to help.

With that said...IF you read this, is your child autistic or ASD? How was your child Dx'ed? Was it by his pedi? Or by a Pediatric Specialist? There is a reason i am asking these questions...

Blue
(mother of a child with PDD (ASD) )

 

[ajkroy]

I'm still shocked to hear that education and medical services are better in North Carolina than they are in New York...

 

[single317dad]

I'm still shocked to hear that education and medical services are better in North Carolina than they are in New York...

Why not? NC is not only quickly becoming one of the most populous states, it has top notch schools and one of the few booming industrial areas throughout the recession.

People just love to jab at the South, but it ain't all rebel flags, cotton fields, first cousin marriages, and mint juleps. You'd be surprised.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Research_Triangle

 

[Just Blue]

I'm still shocked to hear that education and medical services are better in North Carolina than they are in New York...

Although Massachusetts has some of the very best medical care in the world ...Texas might be getting better in some areas.

 

[not2cleverRed]

I'm still shocked to hear that education and medical services are better in North Carolina than they are in New York...

Maybe it's because half of Long Island has moved there. Lower cost of living, you know.